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ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (9/7/2009 6:02:14 PM)

my daughter was adopted to a family at birth, i faught for her but because i was so young they went ahead with the adoption even though i wanted her, i even apealed 2x. the family she went to she grew up knowing she was adopted and she knows i am her birth mom the family is great. today she is 12 and she messaged me after years of not seeing her, i was so nervous and excited i called the adoptive parents because i dont want to cause any problem they said i could talk to her but if she askes in depth questions i am to tell them. what are my birth daughters rights at the age 12 and being adopted

shawna



ChristineB -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (9/11/2009 1:33:47 PM)

If I were you I would seek the advice of an attorney, just to protect yourself.  Thats great that she wants to see you!



fiery -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (9/12/2009 9:26:01 AM)

It sounds like you have a great communication line going with the adoptive parents. It's very fair for them to want to know what she's asking. They've brought her up for twelve years so you could give them that courtesy and peace of mind by doing so.

This site lists legal resources related to adoption and may help: http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/adoption-laws-legal-resources-and-legal-reform-in-adoption-and-foster-care.html



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (11/18/2009 3:34:41 PM)

There is an adoptive child who is searching for his father. The father has been dead for over 10 years. His search is causing myself and my brother some pain. Do we have any rights? Thank You, Deanna

Deanna Gurley



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (12/3/2009 4:41:31 PM)

i think is a bad thing to adopted a childern because how about if they wan't ro know where they came from or what part of religion they are from i want to let all of you people that if your going to take care of an adopted children, shame on the mom because of the fact of leaving their child.

maria



fiery -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (12/4/2009 3:04:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ArticlePost

i think is a bad thing to adopted a childern because how about if they wan't ro know where they came from or what part of religion they are from i want to let all of you people that if your going to take care of an adopted children, shame on the mom because of the fact of leaving their child.

maria


Maria, quite frankly I can't believe you said that. Why is it wrong for a child to be brought up by two adults that have all the love in the world to offer an adopted child? You cannot condemn mothers offhand like that with a blanket statement when you have no idea why that child is up for adoption. It could be the child's mother died or was incapable of caring for the child for whatever reason. Putting their child up for adoption when they cannot care for them themselves is a very loving and hard thing for the mother to do. They want their child to have a better life than they can offer them themselves at that point. What are the alternatives? Do you think an orphanage is a better option than being placed with a loving family for life? Don't think so.

I know a couple that have a little girl they adopted that doesn't want for anything in this world. Her birth mother was only 16. They have told her from as soon as she was old enough to understand that she was adopted by them at weeks old. It's no big secret. Most adopted parents do tell the children. It's not the child's fault they were adopted, in fact my friend explained to her daughter how she was very special because they chose her.

In this couple's case the woman couldn't have children because of problems with her womb. So you think she should have been denied motherhood because she was unlucky healthwise? She's happy. The little girl is happy. Their family is happy. So what's wrong about that? As to religion, the child will be whatever religion their adoptive family chooses to raise them as, same as they would be if they were a biological birth child of that family. Look at the bigger picture here and see how many lives are affected by adoption before jumping in with rash judgments that offer no solutions. Adopted children deserve a loving home environment just as much as any child.



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (12/11/2009 12:43:34 PM)

well im adopted and what i really want to know is what about my birth certificate, or my biological parents?

Asia



ChristineB -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (12/14/2009 11:23:44 AM)

Don't you have a birth certificate?  You should.



dianerene -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (12/14/2009 11:28:56 AM)

are you asking about your original birth certificate? my daughter is adopted and the court's changed her birth certificate to show that mine and my husband's names on it, but I kept the hospital certificate to show her biological parents' names. depending on the type of adoption you were in, it may be difficult to get the original certificate.



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (2/4/2010 3:29:46 PM)

i agree with you because the people have the right to know that they're adopted.:)

maria



ChristineB -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (2/5/2010 11:12:14 AM)

I'm glad I do know that I'm adopted but that could go either way.  It was hard growing up with that in the 70's, it's probably not as bad now.  I got teased very bad for it though, silly I know right



dianerene -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (2/5/2010 12:07:45 PM)

not silly at all!  adoption is shedding some of it's stigma and people are adopting for more and more reasons these days.  I think it may have been good for YOU to know, just maybe could have been better to have been kept within the family.

Falyse likes to tell EVERYONE she is adopted.  sometimes it bugs me and it makes other people feel insecure when she says it, but ultimately, it is her story to tell so I let her.



fiery -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (2/7/2010 8:18:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ChristineB

I'm glad I do know that I'm adopted but that could go either way.  It was hard growing up with that in the 70's, it's probably not as bad now.  I got teased very bad for it though, silly I know right


I'm really surprised that that happened Christine. I'd never have thought that kids would do that. Funny how just because you would never do something yourself when you're a kid you assume no-one else would. That must have been hard. How did you handle it?



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (4/18/2010 7:23:05 PM)

tru kidz should kno their birth parents.but,they also need 2 be protected from wat harmful things their real parents can do.

hotmama



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (4/18/2010 7:30:46 PM)

dianarene u should tell your son that his dad died if u really love him. i'm sure he'll be mad at u for a while but he'll be over it soon enough.

hotmama



ChristineB -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (4/19/2010 1:29:14 PM)

I was grateful for my parents and always knew they loved me. Knowing that is all I ever needed.  I would never want them to lie and tell me they were dead...I can't even fathom that.



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (6/1/2010 12:08:21 PM)

I agree :D

iloverainbows



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (1/17/2011 8:02:56 PM)

i was adopted at 3 years old and i am now 17 and my life has been nothing but hell.

keyera



fiery -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (1/18/2011 8:14:40 PM)

What makes you say that, keyera? 



ArticlePost -> RE: The Rights of Adopted Children (1/19/2011 10:46:07 AM)

I agree that adopted kids should be told who their parents are. I feel that way because my dad was adopted and never found out who his parents were. I feel sad for him and have been trying to find his real parents are. It makes me sad that they don't know they have grandchildren.I love my family and i want to know all of them. I'm doing research on adopted children that's how i found this site.

Dragongirl



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