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sacredflower -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/7/2010 11:15:35 AM)

I was a teenager not a long time ago and I believe in moderation when it comes to dressing. It's always important to consider situations/ occasions where you base your outfit. Also, one has to realize how you would want yourself be treated by your friends, family, and even strangers. Like what my boyfriend always tells me, he doesn't want me in skimpy clothes for he doesn't want me be harassed by guys. So, it's also a matter of security and self-respect.




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (6/16/2010 2:17:43 AM)

I KNOW that most girls are crazy about fashion but my view is this simple living high thinking thank you

jatt




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (7/7/2010 8:46:36 PM)

girls shuldnt dress to try to impress boys or anything..because that attracts the wrong type of boys..if they dress like that when they meet that boy then that boy will expect her to dress like that all the time..an that will be unconfortable for her..

alicia




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (7/15/2010 5:29:53 PM)

I don't think it's too much of a big deal if a girl wears shorter shorts because they feel comfortable in them, or a tank top because it's warm, and she doesn't want to get too sweaty. I think it becomes bad when she does it to attract male attention or any attention to herself.

Jean




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (7/17/2010 3:57:22 AM)

I think sensual dress is okay. But not if it goes too far and looks trashy. Girls should feel confident and not have to hide their bodies. And there is nothing wrong with attracting some attention. Sex should be with someone that you love and when you and your partner are ready. But you can love more than person, and you can be ready before marriage.

Maddie Milson




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (8/17/2010 6:54:49 AM)

good information

Honey




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (10/15/2010 9:29:11 AM)

hey, what's up!

rebecca




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (1/9/2011 1:13:00 PM)

BS, i am a teenage girl and we should be able to express ourselvesings:P

Teenage girl




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (1/11/2011 12:35:48 AM)

"There's no need to go to extremes and require that your daughter wear a sheet wrapped around her face." - why not? Who can say that the wrong knd of men aren'attracted by the sight of a face?

Vincent




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (2/3/2011 10:19:13 AM)

I agree with you we should be able to do that:)

Victoria




Spirit8dancer -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (2/7/2011 12:42:11 AM)

Modest dress has more to do with respecting our bodies. I respect myself and my body enough to keep myself covered. Too often wearing less has more to do with poor self image and attention-seeking.




ChristineB -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (2/8/2011 11:20:05 AM)

I agree withy your spirit8dancer. Good post!




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (2/23/2011 10:39:14 PM)

There is a diff. between beautiful and trashy!! Trust me men enjoy a little of imagination more than they enjoy seeing it all hang out.

prancypony




fiery -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (2/24/2011 6:56:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ArticlePost

There is a diff. between beautiful and trashy!! Trust me men enjoy a little of imagination more than they enjoy seeing it all hang out.

prancypony


I think so too, prancypony. Welcome to Family Lobby! Come see us more at the community. :)




fiery -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/10/2011 2:36:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Spirit8dancer

Modest dress has more to do with respecting our bodies. I respect myself and my body enough to keep myself covered. Too often wearing less has more to do with poor self image and attention-seeking.


I second that emotion. There's a fine line to be drawn between being comfortable in warm weather and flaunting yourself. It's just asking for trouble. My dad would have killed me if I'd dressed the way half the kids do now.Welcome to Family Lobby, Spirit8dancer! [:D]




ChristineB -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/11/2011 9:56:48 AM)

Oh, mine too! Both my folks were strict and I'm glad!




dianerene -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/11/2011 3:27:27 PM)

my parents didn't limit me in what I wore (but they were used to seeing me run around in a leotard from 7 to 14).  they were, however, insistent that if I were to wear a short skirt, I knew how to behave in one.

we had a dress code at school, skirts had to be as long as your fingertips with your hands at your sides.  I wore mini skirts daily and never got reprimanded for it.  I had a friend that was always being asked to go put on her PE shorts.  one day she asked the admin that wrote her up why it was SHE got in trouble, but I didn't.  The admin looked at her and said, "I never would have noticed, but you keep pulling your skirt down, so that tells me you are uncomfortable in your own clothing."

there is some clothing out there that I find absolutely distasteful.  but there are MORE people I find distasteful IN their clothing because they don't know how to carry themselves, or find the right size, or make sure that they are flattering in what they put on.  I know that today, while I COULD behave appropriately in a mini skirt, there is no way I'd put one on because, well, no one wants to see me in it - LOL




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/19/2011 12:58:44 PM)

To be perfectly honest, I think parts of this is rubbish I'm 17 and i dress the way i like and my parents only make sure I'm not running around with then horrible looking one piece clingy dress ALL girls my age wear. For me girls dress like that obviously to be looked at by guys and their friends. But every generation cares about how people see them even guys! Just a lot of girls don't know where to stop and how to dress themselves with out having everything out there cause there is no where actually telling us how to dress (parents aren't included, if it was up to them most girls would go out in ankle skirts and polo neck). I'm skinny but i don't show it all off, i have a boy friend and I'm happy with the way i look i mostly always have been cause my parents have brought me up that way, to be happy being myself. I have loads of confidence too and i know what NOT to wear. I'm not Christian and i don't dress like a wanna-be hooker (sorry but it's true, Everyone has seen them girls in pull ups a low see through top and short shorts dandering around like its the normal thing to do), I'm from northern Ireland too so there are a lot of girls who have orange legs, white faces and make up covered t-shirts and at the minute girls are favoring them see-through tops with short shorts, Yes it is march. I don't wear that stuff though, my phase was when i was 11-14 and i thought i was Emo...So black was a must and to hate myself in every way was also a must. i hated my body till i was 15 and no matter what people said i didn't listen. But there are a lot of girls who hate themselves then decide the only way anyone will like her will be to put it all up for sale. Oh and I'm not 'pure' and that had NOTHING to do with my clothing choice, yes girls don't stay 'pure' cause they are stupid enough to think giving it away will make him love her or something stupid like that. It was my choice i wasn't pressured and i still dress normally. For you people who are wondering what i actually dress in or my 'style' i don't have a style but the closest to it is Indie i guess even if i hate saying some of my clothes go in to a stereotype. Right now? I'm wearing a bat wing long sleeved top with a black top under and denim skinny jeans with fake rips but it shows no skin. :) Parents who tell their kids they cant wear something and are strict about something the girls will go the other direction, This is a new generation and things have changed, Kids have changed. Even if i hate saying it but my generation are ignorant and have next no manners and act like they own you. Until they get home obviously then they are little angels. Religion; Yes some girls will dress because of their religion but if you go out and ask a girl if her inspiration was her religion i doubt she will enthusiastically say 'Yes! of course'. Media; Even i do this, i look at the magazines and see what people are wearing, what FULLY grown woman are wearing and compare myself to them, but i don't do anything about it as too many girls don't actually go 'oh wait...these people are 25+ and I'm 15'. (random age's)So with all due respect to the article, yes its a good article and yes most points are very true but really no one can tame a teenager they will have their stupid idea's, they will be sheep and they will NOT snap out of it unless parents guide them, not letting them go out in JUST them see through tops is a good start letting them go out in it but altering it so it looks decent and wearing pretty tights. But its not all the parents its never just the parents even though most parents instantly think its their fault, its really not. Media causes a lot of problems but only if the girls don't think about it, so parents should keep it in the girls mind that the age of the model and the age of her is very different!.And lastly, Friends the main cause of it all. I think the reason why I'm not a sheep is because i went through two years of my life being bullied by my so called best friends, so for a long time i didn't have friends to tell me what to wear and what not to wear and after my friends bullied me i wised up and said 'why should ANYONE have the upper hand on me they don't own me'. All my friends now are weird and wonderful, I have a small group of friends and no one is the same in anyway. We have a girl with bright pink hair and wears her boy friends tops with her jeans, another girl who just wears a top and boot leg jeans. And a girl who is slightly more girly with her look and two guys who wear the normal 17/18 year old guy stuff. we cant be classed and i love that. Too any other girl reading this, I'm Hannah. I'm 17, blond, 5"2 and I'm 10St So I'm not anorexic and there is Nothing wrong with that, You're friends don't control any part of you, they only look like that cause they are hiding something or they haven't had anyone tell them any different. Don't be a sheep, wear what you like. Find your own style! cause trust me finding your own style and things that suit you with your friends is much more fun than going in and grabbing the closest thing that looks pretty much exactly like what your friends wear is not a nice thing. you will have your phase and that will go away. :)I'm not going to tell you what to teach your children because you have your methods for that and I'm sure your doing peachy if your on this site doing your research :) I'm just saying not every girl is like that and there is hope, and girls Are NOT going to dress like the people in 1950's like come on times have changed. You cant tell the girls of now to do that or they will just look at you weird and say 'what are you on about?' I do have to admit woman of them days were very Sexy but yet decent. On the other hand they were woman back then and the come back of the teen will be 'So you want me to be inspired to dress like a 1950's woman but not a 2010 woman?' and your response will be? 'not a woman at all'?, then confusion will set in and thats never good. xD Just let the girl know that you can get something her friends like but she can make it look 10 times nicer by wearing it correctly and with other clothing to make it look even better. Its how you wear things, just teach them HOW to wear things and it should be grand :) Oh and if she even thinks about wearing make up, Foundation isn't needed till you are over 20 i use concealer at most, and it should only ever be one shade darker or lighter than her real skin color or she will look orange and i WILL call her an oompa loompa :D Well, i hope i shined some light on the subject :) Sorry it was so long I did journalism i should really know how to shorten this down but it might help someone so stuff it. :Dxx

Hannah




fiery -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/19/2011 9:31:23 PM)

Nothing wrong with a long post, Hannah! Nice to meet you. Welcome to Family Lobby and I hope you stick around. [:D]




ArticlePost -> RE: Dress Standards for the Teenage Girl (3/20/2011 8:20:59 AM)

It's nice to hear young ladies with strong opinions about dressing but you are putting limits on yourself when I hear you say I dress the way I want to, or as long as I don't dress like a slut. The way you dress tells your story.It's "I dont care about you or me" I dress this way to be accepted to be different. You don't really have enough experience to know what works with clothing and what doesn't but I'm sure you do know that The first impression is the most lasting. So be real, you are telling the world I really don't like who I am I am only pretending tolike who I am. Dress the part of a confident, secure teen not with garments that don't fit or look right on you regardless of your opions,with garments that bring positive attention not negative. Like YOU LOOK GREAT IN THAT OUTFIT!!Period.

Bea




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