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dianerene -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (9/25/2008 11:36:47 AM)

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So, I'd like to get your opinion if I might be on target or way off base...
Is Hannah Montana a bad influence for young girls?...I think so.


I had to laugh at this question.  just yesterday I read a blog on how "old school" sesame street now comes with a PARENTAL WARNING - cookie monster eats too much of the wrong foods, big bird has hallucinations, and bert and ernie might be gay   ?!?!  < < < sorry, off topic

quite honestly, the behavior you described is very typical of a teenage girl.  they test boundaries, they are finding their own place in this world with the way they dress and the way they talk, and they are learning to stand their ground.  all of these are very necessary for life, but how YOU deal with it is how they will form these actions in the future.

THE ATTITUDE: when my 16 year old rolls her eyes, or gives me the blank stare, or pops off, I tell her "it's okay to NOT want to do this, but it is not okay to share your disatisfaction with me in this way".  I remind all my girls (because I am blessed enough to deal with the female monster 3 times over) that there is a time and a way to express yourself.  anything that involves tantrums, raised voices or ugly faces is NOT appropriate.

THE ATTIRE: I see no problem in your daughter wanting to be color coordinated.  I have 2 girls that are always dressed to the hilt, and one who would wear her orange capris and bright green top with her bedroom slippers to the mall, if it were allowed.  while I am no fashion guru, I will not even clean my house in clothes that do not match, so I can feel her pain in that sense.  I like to look "presentable", even if it is only for me.  and when I think of the more outlandish things I have seen in young teens, I would be grateful if that were my child's only issue.

ENTITLEMENT: again, another teen thing.  my 16 year old has major issues with this as well.  it's my job, and the job of her father, to help her look outside of her own little world.  just last week she was upset with us because we asked her to get up early to go watch her sisters play soccer.  her game was later in the day and had we waited to leave JUST for her, she could have slept in an extra hour.  well, in my house we all go as a family.  her little sisters have been dragged around all their lives to her soccer events, she was expected to pay them respect for their sacrifices ... she would get up and get ready and root for her sisters just like they had always done for her.  Like I said earlier, this is the time where they are finding their place in this world, so it is natural for them to be self absorbed.  so it is up to us to pull them out of their hole every now and then and say "see!  life is going on around you and you need to step out and enjoy it every now and then"

as far as hannah montana - I'm sorry, but in my house tv has never effected my children's behavior.  I love the disney channel shows, and hannah montana is just entertainment.  I see it spark imagination in my 8 year old and 4 year old ... after they watch a show, they will go up in the bedroom, put on their dress up clothes and a CD, then sing and dance their little hearts away.  my 16 year old watches degrassi (a show I grew up on as well), and I love that it makes her think about what is going on outside of our little city.  teen pregnancy is real, school shootings are real, drama circles and bullies are real, gay is real ... some of this is happening in her school and some is not, but it exposes her on a level that I won't reach her, she sees kids her age (real or not) facing the situations head on.  I can talk about what I know, but seeing it is something different.

I know my opinion is different than many, and I am okay with that.  I was fortunate enough to have worked with teens in foster care and in drug rehab YEARS before I had my own teen.  I noticed that their behavior and attitudes changed as mine did.  If I attacked their attitude, it got worse.  If I acknowledged their displeasure but asked them to be respectful, I usually got a little more information out of them.  I will admit, I couldn't reach them all, but I did reach many.

Good luck!  the teen years are hard, but keep in mind that they are hard on the children living them as well.  being a foster parent is a tough job, you are not only helping a child in need, you are often cleaning up the mess another adult left behind.  kudos to you!



fiery -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (9/25/2008 2:50:35 PM)

Really I don't have anything to add to diane's excellent post. I just wanted to say thanks to her for that. Just because we all get to know each other better as time passes doesn't mean we can't still acknowledge and appreciate that from time to time I reckon. [:D]



dianerene -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (9/25/2008 3:53:20 PM)

thank you Kay [:)]



Kristalea -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (4/17/2009 8:47:29 AM)

Hi, My name is Krista, I am 20 years old, and I just moved from hometown to be a Nanny for a family of three. Two girls- ages nine and 13, and a boy who is 11.  They are really wonderful kids, but I have been having a lot of trouble with the 13 year old girl, and even some trouble with the nine year old.

I simply just don't know how to deal with the 13 yr old's attitude! When she is in a good mood, she is absolutely WONDERFUL! But when she isn't it is very frustrating to me. She rarely minds me, and finds someway around what I tell her to do. Im not really allowed to yell at the children, just get stern. I am very new at dealing with teenagers so PLEASE HELP, any strategies or tactics would be wonderful.

Also, the 9 yr old (who most of the time is a complete sweetheart) has recently started to find it amusing when I get frustrated with her. She wont listen to me, so I get frustrated, then she finds it funny and it gets even worse. Any advice?

Thanks,
Kristalea



ChristineB -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (4/17/2009 11:28:43 AM)

Wow, thats a tricky one.  Teenagers are dealing with so many issues and hormones that mood swings can often be difficult to deal with on your end and hers.  Try to keep in mind that she is probably frustared with herself too, and the changes in her body compound the issue.

Have you tried talking to her, openly and honestly and expressing your concerns?  Also, have you tried this with her parents?  I'm not sure there is an easy solution, or any tricks of the trade that will work...but try communicating your concerns to her and her parents.  I would start there and see how it goes.....



dianerene -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (4/17/2009 2:20:10 PM)

oh wow, Kristalea, you have taken on an admirable job!  good for you [:)]

I agree with Christine, this is a time when both girls are going through some ever-changing hormones and emotions.  Then, add that to a life change such as bringing you into their home ... probably a pretty confusing time, even if you are not the first nanny they have had.

when I worked in foster care I saw a lot of what you have described, and I found that if I could reach the older sister and get her to respect me, then the issues with the younger sister became less.  even with sisters that don't get a long, they would tend to band together in trying to overturn the authority of the staff or foster parent.

I would suggest talking to the parents, not placing blame anywhere, because that will only make the girls less likely to respect you, but to set up a game plan with them.  find out if there are certain restrictions you can set down when the girls disobey, like taking away tv time, or computer or phone time.  also, ask for their support in these consequences because it won't take long to figure out that they can cry to mom and dad when they don't like what you are doing.

then, as far as the girls are concerned, be straight forward with them.  let them know that you are there to do a job, not take the place of their parents or be their new best friend.  it is okay to be upset with having to do a chore, but that there is an acceptable way of dealing with it, and there are unacceptable ways that will not be tolerated.  I know with my own children, I sometimes have to make deals ... if they can focus themselves on doing the task at hand in a reasonable amount of time, then they can pick something that they want to do and I will put aside all my tasks in order to spend that time with them.  I have found, that even my 17 year old enjoys finding things for us to do together, even though most of her requests are to do things outside of the home with her friends - lol.  BUT, if they don't do what has been asked of them, there are consequences ... no friends over, no movie on friday night, no phone calls, etc.  you have to find what is important to THEM and what will motivate them most.

keep in mind that your age can be a HUGE benefit in this situation.  you are old enough to be authoritive, but still young enough to understand what they are going through.  I started working in a group home at 19 and found I did my best in those early years. 

good luck!!



aterita -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (6/17/2009 12:16:18 PM)

Liz, this is the attitude problem that most of the parents of teenagers face these days. Teens live in the world of their own, their likes dislikes, mood swings, behaviors are annoying at times. But teens who have behavior problems for longer time definitely need family based intervention. So that behavior problems don't get worse with passage of time or the teens get rebellious if the parents don't intervene properly. There are some programs like Home Intervention System that helps you deals with a wide range of problems that children often encounter including; anger, substance abuse, school issues, self-esteem, arguing, motivation, interacting with family, and more. No Parenting technique, approach, talk, or change on your part will work until your child is motivated to listen to and follow your directions. Most children don't lack the ability to obey their parents or follow rules, they simply lack the motivation to do so. The Home Intervention System was developed by administrators of schools and programs for struggling youth and has been adapted for home use. The Home Intervention System shows you how to motivate your teen to make changes just like they do in these schools and programs. The System utilizes a simple but powerful Attitude and Behavior Modification Program.
I hope this information helps, and wishes for you.



Emily E. -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (9/2/2009 7:14:21 PM)

Okay so i came across this post, by searching up Girl Drama on google.
This is my first post, and ive been here for all about..5 minutes. [:(]
Im familiar with girl drama. Let me start off by saying... I have 3 girls currently. Im 34 & I have... Emerson (13) Elisha (7) Erin (4). Emerson who recently turned 13 is starting this attitude thing, and i do not like it! We just got out of the terrible twos with Erin, & Emerson is starting up on it! Epically when she has to repeat herself. Thats a BIG thing, or she is asked questions she has 'already answered' I remember when i was 13 trying to find my place in middle-school & i perfectly understand all the drama going on, but its not accepted. The drama epically!

She takes things a bit out of extreme. I just say "Emerson-whats the problem here?" and she just ignores me. I love her to death but i just want to knock some sense into her! I know every teenage girl needs their 'space'. When she is crying or upset i find it better to leave them alone, let them sit in their room until they are done venting & crying. Elisha is probably the one girl in this house who is done with the drama! Emerson & Erin must have inherited their emotional issues from me! Im a very emotional person, and get upset easy. But Elisha, im just like praise the lord! [:D]

But... with Erin & Emerson they are constantly bickering, and Erin is 4 and Emerson is 13! Thats basically a 9-10 year difference in age. I do not know where Erin OR Emerson is getting this little attitude of theirs, but i think its from school. Erin just started Preschool & I went on her first day and there were a couple girls with attitudes who were all "THATS MINE! DONT TOUCH!" or "NO IM FIRST" demanding. Their parents didn't say anything...i was shocked. I think girls of this age are just crazy emotional!! Its been getting ALOT better since Emerson finished up 7th grade and now is in 8th, i think she is a bit more mature. We havent had that many problems in the last week or two. But im not 100% sure its over. I love all the advice & im going to try to iforce it a bit more at home, its just i had parents who were WAY over protective & very very strict, I understand that you are your childs parent first & friend second. But i wish i could find a way to be both equally.

I want my daughters to love each other, & get along...actually all 5 of us get along. My husband Ethan is fed up with all the drama, being the only guy in the house. (Even our dog and cat are girls) I feel bad for him to, because he does not know how to help with Emerson,Elisha, & Erin's 'girl problems' he tries his best and gives wonderful advice...but he doesnt understand the girl mind as much as i do, because im a girl myself! Im rambling i know, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.


Emily&Eric
Parents of 3;
Emerson.Elisha.Erin






fiery -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (9/20/2009 3:08:51 PM)

Hey there Emily, great to meet you! Welcome to Family Lobby. :) Wow, you have your hands full there eh! I had to smile because it reminded me so much of my own childhood. There was a big gap between my sisters and I, and our baby brother who came along much later too and man, did we bicker and squabble with him! I think a lot was jealousy on our part because he was the longed for boy my Dad had hoped for and he got a lot of attention with being the youngest. There's nine years between him and I too.

Maybe that could be part of it do you think? It's hard when you're a kid to see the reason they get is is because they're just not at the self-sufficient age older ones are, not because the adults think they're any more special than you are.
FWIW, my sister and I that were closest in age bickered all the time too (16 months between us). I think that's par for the course. No solutions for you LOL, I just wanted you to know it's normal.

And the less I say about those other parents' demanding kids the better. I hate that. Hang in there. We only fight occasionally now. In 40 years it'll be MUCH better. [:(]

Stay cool and keep us posted. Take on board some of what's been said already, talk it through with Dad so you're both on the same page about restricting privileges and how it's going to be dealt with , tell the kids what's going to happen if they don't straighten up and most importantly, FOLLOW THROUGH and stick to your guns. Good luck and don't be a stranger!





Thelma -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (9/27/2009 7:22:10 PM)

All I have to add is........I'M GLAD I'VE GOT ALL BOYS! [:(]

I remember so much bickering growing up with my two sisters, it was horrible.

I wish I had advice for you but I still fight with my younger sister.  LOL  I do hope you all find the ability to resist the urge to pull ALL your hair out. [:'(]



mamastack -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (12/14/2009 6:33:07 PM)

Ok so I discovered this website today as I was despartately looking for answers on how to deal with teenage girls!! I have two of them. One mine and one a step daughter, both living with us.

Challenging to say the least.....they are both 15, both sophomores in high school, the same high school. The drama, competition, and attitudes are about to drive me and my husband insane!

We love them both dearly but not quite sure how to make it through the next two and a half years of high school and beyond.

The attitudes would have to be the biggest struggle for me. It does not seem that I can ever do anything right for these girls. And then just when I think I cant take anymore, they turn sweet as pie. Never long lasting though.

We also have two teenage boys, 18, just graduated from high school. they are now out living on their own in a house that we own and are renting to them. That has relieved some stress in our own home and that has helped some but we really wish the two girls were renting the house and the boys lived back here with us. lol

Any advise you can offer about raising a blended family of teenagers would be greatly appreciated. sometimes I feel that I just wish I could fast forward my life to the time when they are grown up an don their own. Wishing both of the girls have multiple girls of their own to raise.....pay back!!!!![;)]



dianerene -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (12/15/2009 10:40:54 AM)

awww, don't wish your life away!

blended families are hard, and just as hard is a teenage girl. I thought I got off fairly easy with my teen daughter, but I am realizing she may have just saved it all up for the later teens. she is 18 now and wow! I barely recognize the little monster ... I mean, girl [:'(]

seriously tho, the best advice I can give is stand your ground and don't back off. they are fully aware that they can turn on the charm and weaken you with a glimpse of the sweet little girl you know is in there, but that is when you have to be the strongest. it's easy to stand up against a bad attitude, but the rules and restrictions you lay out when you are being fought, are the same ones you need to hold to when they are trying to charm you out of their punishment.

in our home (which is mixed and blended with a his, hers, ours and adopted) it is made very clear, very early on, that attitude is everything. keep a positive attitude and things will run more smoothly. toss out a bad attitude and expect to be called on it. with 3 girls in the house (18, 10 and 6) I know to expect good days and bad days, but the key is to talk about the bad days and work thru them. it's okay to be upset, it's okay to feel irritated, but lashing out at an unsuspecting sibling (or an unsuspecting DAD) is unacceptable. my middle daughter, I believe, has a tendency towards a mood disorder and there are times she would rather NOT talk about what is bugging her. This is allowed to an extent, but only under the condition that she loses the attitude and treats the rest of us with respect. If this isn't possible, then she removes herself from the situation. she and I are similar in needing some personal space and "me" time. often this will clear up the bad vibes with her and all will be peaceful again.

as far as your feeling you can't do anything right, I say, stop trying. my girls know if they are going to complain about something they have been given, or the way something has been done for them, then they better be prepared to do it themselves. I do not bicker with my girls because I will always get caught in the "no matter what I say it is wrong" situation, and I just don't have that kind of energy with THREE of them. I offer my advice to them and say "you can take it or leave it, but if ou DON'T take it, you forfeit the right to complain about it later".

It all sounds easier said than done, and it won't clear up all your issues. My 18 year old thinks that because she is officially an adult, she can do stupid things ... why? I don't know. But we are making it very clear to her that her mistakes are hers alone now, we will help her out as long as she is being honest with us, but if her behavior begins to affect her younger sisters, then WE will need to make some drastic changes.

Hope that helps



IsaMom -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (1/22/2010 11:45:34 AM)

My daughter is almost 15 and I'm not sure what to do with her at this point.  She is an only child and yes a little spoiled but her overall attiitude about things is just horrible.  Everything is "stupid" and she feels like she gets to decide what she will and won't do concerning school activities, Girl Scouts, church, etc.  I know we probably gave her more liberty than we should have in the past but now she's becoming definant and disrespectful.  I told her to sell GS Cookies to the neighbors we know and she has yet to try because she doesn't want anything to do with the troop anymore.  The biggest problem is the neighbor girl.  She just graduated HS, works 15 hours a week, is lazy and has the same attitiude my daughter now exhibits.  I was hoping when she graduated the friendship would end but that isn't happening...she just shows up at my house.  I want to get rid of the friend but it's the only one she hangs out with outside of school.

We wanted her to try out for the Cross Country team in the Fall and she didn't want to run hills so we agreed then that she would run track in the Spring (flat surfaces at least) and that starts March 1st.  Now she's decided she doesn't want to do it and I'm NOT backing down.  She's afraid people will make fun of her if she doesn't make it (which won't happen as all Freshman make the team). 

She just never wants to try anything new because it's "Stupid".  I'm really getting sick of that word.  I've told her to try things and if she can give me a real reason why she didn't want to do it again then I would consider it.

I'm the motivated parent and it makes me sick to see her like this.  My husband is not college educated and works at a job he hates because he can't find anything better.  He doesn't see the problems because he works overnight and doesn't have to deal with her except on the weekend.

I'm at my wits end.  She's had a VERY easy life up to this point and I think I'm just going to have to pull the rug out from under her...no phone, no computer and no neighbor visits until the attititude changes.  She complains that her other two friends from school always have to watch their little brothers and do things that they may not want to do.  I've asked her if she knows how lucky she is and she seems to appreciate it but it's not sinking in.

I know I've posted alot here but I'm at a loss...any advice?



hollie -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (2/20/2010 1:26:16 PM)

I have a 12 year old daughter that is getting out of control and i do not know what to do. I need some advice. She is interested in boys now and has a boyfriend. her mouth is also getting out of control and when i tell her she has an attitude she says she don't. i also have three younger daughters also. i work a full time job and trying to do my best with her. she always tells me how strick i am. her grades have dropped in school and i have grounded her from the phone and going anywhere. she thinks if she does one good thing i am suppose to let her go somewhere or have more time on the phone. WHAT DO I DO.



lostmom10 -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (2/23/2010 11:06:06 PM)

well i am just lost i dont know what to do with my 14 year old daughter she has been on dys cusidy department of youth severes for going on three years now she has been sent to juvinile a few times and she is on all kinds of medicians.they say she has a.d.h.d a.d.d depression and she has been put in the hosipital a few time and they r always changing her meds she has been sent to girls homes a few times she has been sent to a few places and each time she would be gone 30 days at a time.never no longer she has gotten into fights at home and at school,she has got in trouble for smoking weed she has had sex she has pulled a knife on me and said she would kill me and nothing i do to try and get her to act right seems to help when she gets sent off she always says she is going to come home and act right but after a few weeks she always starts acting up again and she gets sent off again the last time she was gone 30 days she came home she was here 30 days and got into it with my brother and kicked him slipped my oldest daughter and pushed me and i had to call the cops they came and got her she has been gone almost 2 months now they said she will have to do 60 to 90 days this time she is about an hour away from me .i get to talk to her every night but it still hurts really bad to be away from her,but i know she needs help that is the only thing thats keeps me going hoping and praying maybe she will get the help she needs so we aint got to go through this anymore.i just dont know what to do anymore i try my best to make her happy and give her anything she wants but if one time i dont give her what she wants or im unable to give her,her way that is when she blows up she wants it her way or no way at times i just feel like it is a lost cause but she is my daughter my youngest daughter and i love her so much so i will never give up on her but i just feel so hopeless anyone have any advice for me it would be greatly appratied thanks to all i just dont know where to turn i dont have anyone to talk to thank you!!!![:)]



fiery -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (2/25/2010 12:12:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IsaMom

My daughter is almost 15 and I'm not sure what to do with her at this point.  She is an only child and yes a little spoiled but her overall attiitude about things is just horrible.  Everything is "stupid" and she feels like she gets to decide what she will and won't do concerning school activities, Girl Scouts, church, etc.  I know we probably gave her more liberty than we should have in the past but now she's becoming definant and disrespectful.  I told her to sell GS Cookies to the neighbors we know and she has yet to try because she doesn't want anything to do with the troop anymore.  The biggest problem is the neighbor girl.  She just graduated HS, works 15 hours a week, is lazy and has the same attitiude my daughter now exhibits.  I was hoping when she graduated the friendship would end but that isn't happening...she just shows up at my house.  I want to get rid of the friend but it's the only one she hangs out with outside of school.

We wanted her to try out for the Cross Country team in the Fall and she didn't want to run hills so we agreed then that she would run track in the Spring (flat surfaces at least) and that starts March 1st.  Now she's decided she doesn't want to do it and I'm NOT backing down.  She's afraid people will make fun of her if she doesn't make it (which won't happen as all Freshman make the team). 

She just never wants to try anything new because it's "Stupid".  I'm really getting sick of that word.  I've told her to try things and if she can give me a real reason why she didn't want to do it again then I would consider it.

I'm the motivated parent and it makes me sick to see her like this.  My husband is not college educated and works at a job he hates because he can't find anything better.  He doesn't see the problems because he works overnight and doesn't have to deal with her except on the weekend.

I'm at my wits end.  She's had a VERY easy life up to this point and I think I'm just going to have to pull the rug out from under her...no phone, no computer and no neighbor visits until the attititude changes.  She complains that her other two friends from school always have to watch their little brothers and do things that they may not want to do.  I've asked her if she knows how lucky she is and she seems to appreciate it but it's not sinking in.

I know I've posted alot here but I'm at a loss...any advice?

You know what to do, IsaMom. You said it yourself in the last paragraph. Take away the privileges, including socializing outside school hours, until the attitude and schoolwork improves. Ban the friend from the house too until it does, definitely. Don't say in so many words that's what you're doing but if you include socializing in the punishment, that happens. I wouldn't care if she lost her only friend because that's not much of a friend. She obviously needs to be distanced from this girl and soon. I'd let her quit the GS if she can find something else worthwhile to fill her time instead, not if she planned to just do nothing.

Her other two friends are the ones acting mature, not her. They've taken on responsibilities at home. She needs to see that. Give her plenty of chores to do to keep her occupied the minute she complains she's bored. You need to take her in hand now and show her who's boss. Under your roof, under your rules.

I haven't seen you post here before. Did you have another handle and forget the login or were they guest posts? If you register it would be much easier to keep track of what's happening for both us and you so we can help if we can. [:D] Keep us posted on how it's going please. Good luck!



Jenni30 -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (3/17/2010 10:01:22 PM)

I am in need of some help.  I have two daughters who are 13 and 11.  The 11 year old is an angel yet I am running into problems with my 13 year old daughter.  She feels that everyone is against her and that no adult deserves respect.  My husband and I have tried to explain to her numerous times that it is disrespectful to talk back to her teachers and elders but her answer to that is "why should I respect them if they don't respect me". 

She also feels she needs to protect everyone around her and gets in trouble for it in school.  We have tried to explain to her that she needs to worry about herself and not anyone else as we are concerned about her grades as she is failing numerous tests and classes.  We have received numerous calls from her teachers about her attitude and about her talking and disrupting class.  When we speak to her about what the teacher says, she responds back by saying it isn't a big deal along with a mumble under her breathe and a roll of the eyes.  We explain to her what the consequences(taking away the cell phone, not allowed going out with her friends, etc...) are if we keep getting these calls but nothing seems to work as she just doesn't care.  She changes her attitude for about an hour then go back to speaking back and telling us how we should do things. 

I try constantly to remember what I was like at that age and explain that being 13 is extremely hard but she claims I have no idea because times were different.    Does anyone have any advice that I could try as I am at a loss for words. 




fiery -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (3/20/2010 1:20:25 PM)

Jenni, welcome to Family Lobby community. We'll do our best to help you. First of all, have you taken her to the doctor? I know that sounds a strange first option but her anxiety about others seems over the top. There may be some underlying anxiety that makes her feel this need to protect so strongly. I'd let a professional look at her.

You've talked to her and explained things and it hasn't worked. Sometimes hearing the same thing from an outsider is all the difference there needs to be for change.

Now you say she goes back to where she was in an hour. Do you give her her things back too? If you're not withholding them for any length of time and sticking to your guns she has no incentive to continue behaving well.

Why is she failing classes? Has she always been really smart? I ask that because I know a girl that deliberately failed her tests and was talking back in class to try fit in more. She'd been called a goody two shoes and wanted acceptance more than she wanted good grades. Is it possible that something similar is going on?

Could this be linked to the protection thing? Makes me wonder if something has happened at school where she's feeling she needs to look tougher. Any friends or classmates she used to talk about that she's suddenly stopped mentioning or seems to be avoiding?

Again, I would think about asking the dr to check her out in case it's a problem with her hearing or her sight or something like ADHD. Talking out in class is very common in that. I don't mean to worry you and am just suggesting some options worth exploring. Good luck and please keep us posted on what happens as you go through this. You're very welcome here. :)



cary -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (3/29/2010 4:08:33 PM)

My childrens friends and my family all concider me a somewhat strick parent, but my 14 year old daughter is becomming miss drama and attitude.  We have taken away all computers, cell phones, tv, friends, but she holds her ground yells and refuses to do anything we ask of her. She tells us "Stay out of my life dont ask questions and I will deal with things on my own". That is not an option! She spends most of her time in her room that only has a bed in it, refusing to do anything we ask. What more do i do?



ChristineB -> RE: Teenage girls, drama and attitude (3/30/2010 9:41:19 AM)

Hmm, have you talked to her pediatrician?  It sounds like maybe she has somethign going on that needs to be out in the open.....I would call the Dr just to be on the safe side.



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