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dianerene -> RE: Teen Visitation Issue (12/7/2008 9:48:27 PM)
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ouch! that stinks!!
we are a blended family here as well, and went through similar issues. my husband and his ex wife did not make any of the decisions between them ... the discussions were always between my step son and his parents. HE was the only one to approach the subject of not being involved in family vacations, holidays, etc.
I think he was about the same age the first time he asked not to be included on our summer vacation trip. He called his dad and told him that the vacation would take place during an event he really wanted to attend. He and his dad talked about it for a couple of weeks before we finally made the reservations without him. He was a bit bummed - I think he figured we would cancel the entire trip since he didn't want to go, but it was his decision and my husband made sure it was what his son wanted.
I think it would be a good idea to call your daughter and ask her about it. IS there a particular event she will be missing? is it what SHE wants? or what she is being asked to do?? maybe a compromise can be made? let her know that you understand the growing importance of friends at this age, but that family time is important too and you and your side of the family enjoy the time you get to spend with her.
If you feel that you are indeed getting the short end of the stick on a regular basis, you can always take it up in the courts ... but it sounds like you really don't WANT to go that route.
I know how difficult it can be, I hope you work something out!
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