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bluedolphin -> husband trying to force his dog on our family (7/30/2009 8:34:00 PM)
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Hello everyone. Here's my story. Please bear with me. I need to get this out or at 9 1/2 months pregnant, I will go into labor because of this. My husband and I began our relationship 8 years ago. He mentioned he had a dog at his parents house where he lived. i spoke to him about my problem with dogs and cats. A few years before we began dating, I had 3 cats and a dog. I had them for 3 years and for the entire time, I was sick. My allergies to them led to asthma, and medications and shots becasue I was too stubborn to realize that my health was more important. So, the doctor finally advised I give them up. I did. It took almost a year for my health to improve because their dander was everywhere in my house still. I explained this to now husband back then. Throughout our relationship, I visited my in laws and always got sick with asthma. Our son is allergic also and would come home sick after every visit. My in laws did not think that it was a problem for my son and I to be sick because of the cat and dog. After many arguments with my husband and many talks to my in laws, I told my husband that I could not take being sick anymore and that I could not bear watching my son be sick because we continued to put him through it. So after 4 years of this, we visited my in laws onlly 2-3 times a year. They barely made up for the visits and cam over to our house maybe 4-5 times a year, living only 10 minutes away. Anyway, my in laws moved to another state, gave the cat away and took the dog, since they were living with their other son. Now, they are coming up to visit and are planning on bringing the dog to stay with us!!! My husband says he does not want to give up the dog and told me that I won't even go half way with him on this!! He told me to take medicines for my allergies. He knows I will still be sick, and so will our son. And I had clearly expressed my feelings about caring for a dog. He knows I had no intentions of ever caring for a dog or cat. Now we have a baby on the way too. So he says he will keep the dog in our storage/family room. So, I guess that means I can't go in that room, but yet I have to clean up after the dog, and have it's hair every where, and hear it bark, and take it for walks!! I told him it's either the dog or my health and he says that I gave him an ultimatum. I said there is no choice to make here. This is nothing new. It has been been discussed plenty of times before and he is trying to force this dog on me. We are supposed to be moving into our first house together in 3 weeks and have a new baby and I am about to pack my stuff and find somewhere else to go!! I am so frustrated. And my father in law is no help. He has been telling my husband for years, knowing how I feel about it, that my we need to bring the dog with us. Does someone have any suggestions about how to explain to him that as much as he loves this dog, it will be a major problem in our relationship? I will not put my or my childrens health at risk. And I do not want to care for a pet. What should I do?
Stressed by everything and a dog right now...
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