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fiery -> Your biggest lesson in life (8/1/2009 12:30:39 AM)

Where did it come from would you say? 



dianerene -> RE: Your biggest lesson in life (8/1/2009 5:24:53 PM)

I don't know what my biggest lesson in life would be, other than I know one of my deepest heartfelt issues is tolerance and not judging others by the choices they make in life.  as far as where it comes from ... just growing up, I guess!  lol  I was in a drug rehab at 15, tho I had never done drugs, I saw the judgement people made on myself and other clients when they heard where we came from.  I dropped out of high school AND was pregnant at 17, I saw the look in peoples' eyes when they saw me, and I heard the whispers.  even today, people see my husband and our children and some still assume that I am the mom that had all these children by different fathers.
I teach my children that there is no set right or wrong path to take your life, the choices you make will make your life harder or easier, but they are your choices to make.  my choices may have made my life a little harder, but I honestly feel I have become a stronger person because of them.  and because of that, I do not look down on the teenage mom, or even pity her.  I do not put a huge price tag on standard education because I know that you can still go far without a high school diploma.  I do not judge people for their choices in who they marry or who they love, and I don't even attempt to decide what type of life a person has lived because they have children of different ethnic backgrounds.
I will say, and this is something I am trying to work on, I DO get a kick out of the people who assume that I have lived a certain way and will make comments about other people - the high school drop out or the teenaged mom - and then hear me defend them and why.  the shock value has always brought me a chuckle or two, and I know it shouldnt ... just shows I still have a ways to go ;0)



fiery -> RE: Your biggest lesson in life (8/2/2009 11:45:22 AM)

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I will say, and this is something I am trying to work on, I DO get a kick out of the people who assume that I have lived a certain way and will make comments about other people - the high school drop out or the teenaged mom - and then hear me defend them and why.  the shock value has always brought me a chuckle or two, and I know it shouldnt ... just shows I still have a ways to go ;0)


LOL, perfection would be pretty boring I think anyway. ;) Life should be a journey where you never reach the destination, always learning and growing.

I hear you on that. I am the same way about autism or depression when I hear it being discussed in an ignorant ill informed way by people who've never even came close to having to deal with it or within their family. I believe we go through hard things in life so that we can later pass on what we learned from it to someone that needs to hear it. It's a gift really, but you don't see that at the time of course and it can be forever before the opportunity arises. If we don't share what we learned or experienced, or choose to learn nothing from it at all, then we lose the purpose of the whole experience. I find that's a comforting thought that we do because it means it ain't all for nothing. :)

And when you're sharing what you talked about there diane, that's exactly what you're doing. Giving them a gift. So don't feel too bad about getting a twinge of fun out of giving them food for thought. :)



dianerene -> RE: Your biggest lesson in life (8/2/2009 3:46:58 PM)

very well put, Kay ... I like that we always have room to learn more.  it's those that think they know it all who have given up on all the wonderful things life still has to offer.
I tell my husband, but have not been brave enough to tell my children, anyone can go through life making the easy choices and taking the well travelled path, and it doesn't mean they WON'T make it.  But the experiences and lessons you can gain by taking a more difficult path are immeasurable, as long as you are willing to work towards turning a not so good decision into a positive one.



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