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ArticlePost -> Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake (8/2/2009 11:09:24 PM)

At marriages seminars, I am frequently asked if it is beneficial to stay together in a marriage for the children’s sake. Is it better for the kids to have both parents in the same house even if the marriage is basically over? How much do the kids know about what’s going on?

Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake
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ArticlePost -> RE: Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake (8/2/2009 11:09:24 PM)

Families are not disposable or replacable! There is a reason you got married in the first place & took an Oath Under God! Quit blaming your spouse for your unhappiness, realize that life is NOT all about YOU. This article irritates me because it is enabling taking the easy way out and too pro divorce for me. Divorce affects every one in your life, every day for ever and ever. Divorce is what does more harm than it helps!

Heather



ChristineB -> RE: Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake (8/3/2009 11:55:28 AM)

Tough question.  I would say that is a case by case basis.  Some kids need two parent homes while others can adjust to the adversity that life can bring.  It would also depend on how the couple managed their differences.  If it is in anger than they should not be together, but if it is tolerable and it can be done, than I think it's important.

I think the children should come first, so it would depend on what's best for them.



ArticlePost -> RE: Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake (7/26/2010 12:18:27 PM)

When living with an acholic who chooses that over his family then yes separtion and or divorce is the answer. His child is seeing the bad behavior he displays and it is not OKAY!!! To Heather apparently you have no idea what it's like to live like this, I do take my vows seriously but when he doesn't and continues to spiral in the wrong direction how are we to be happy, it is not possible...

BARBARA



ArticlePost -> RE: Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake (12/13/2011 10:50:37 AM)

I am staying for our 4 son's sakes. They have absolutely no idea that we have been having problems, that their father totally broke my heart with a 14 year affair that I just found out about, a year ago. I knew that they would be totally devastated, since they, like me was totally in the dark, had no idea. So, I have kept it to myself. My husband swears he does not want to loose me (yeah, right), that he now realizes what a fool he has been. I told him that he had to promise me we would finish raising our young pre-teen and teenage boys, then I would make a decision. In the mean time, he has to be the best father he can be. No one in our family knows. I know how it would destroy our son's view of their father forever and at a very tough time in a boy's life. We present the 'happy' face for everyone, including our kids. Because I love them that much. They are all straight 'A' students, how long would that last in the devastation of divorce?

sad mom



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