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fiery -> Do you get or want a say in who's your child's teacher? (8/22/2009 9:30:46 PM)

I was really surprised to see this article about a mom lobbying for the one she thought would suit her son best. Times must have changed because when mine was small they just went where they were put and parents weren't consulted in any way.

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The school, however, placed Stanley in a different class. And to his mother's surprise and delight, the year wound up being so successful for him that Gilbert said she is approaching his pending entry into fourth grade in a new way: by vowing to stay out of the process.


http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31947478/ns/today-parenting_and_family/



dianerene -> RE: Do you get or want a say in who's your child's teacher? (8/23/2009 2:41:17 PM)

I was just about to touch on this in the other post about kindergarten - lol.

I had a mom, who is also a teacher, tell me that I should request a specific teacher for my incoming 5th grader.  Part of her excuse was because this teacher took all of the GATE (gifted and talented education) students and would supplement the regular students with higher based work.  I told her flat out, nope.  part of getting a new teacher each year was a lesson in life.  sometimes your teachers are great and absolutely love you.  other times, you are not the teacher's pet and you have to learn to get by.  some teachers yell, some are happy go lucky all day long.  in life you have to learn to get along with everyone, you cannot go through it picking and choosing who you surround yourself with at all times.

just my 2 cents



Thelma -> RE: Do you get or want a say in who's your child's teacher? (8/26/2009 10:03:34 AM)

Fiery and Diane, MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!!!  SO many parents these days request (or demand) specific teachers.  I think it's ridiculous.  My kids have all gotten teachers they didn't like.  I've always told them there will be lots of people in this world you don't like but you have to learn to get along with them. 

You said it so well Diane....  "in life you have to learn to get along with everyone, you cannot go through it picking and choosing who you surround yourself with at all times." [sm=icon14.gif] 



dianerene -> RE: Do you get or want a say in who's your child's teacher? (8/26/2009 1:55:09 PM)

thanks, Thelma.  I really believe it is one of life's lessons and one I learned myself in the 4th grade.  I tell my children the reason why there are so many different kinds of teachers is because there are so many different kinds of learners ... some kids learn through soft voices and hugs, and some kids learn by being pushed beyond what they think they can handle.  In order to be as smart as you can be, you have to be able to find the lesson in even the hardest of teachers.



SuperSandyB -> RE: Do you get or want a say in who's your child's teacher? (9/27/2009 9:57:54 PM)

The only time I would intervene is if the teacher was giving my kid a hard time...I remember my 4th grade teacher was terrible. He was even verbally abusive sometimes! But as long as they like their job and have the kids' best interest at heart then I don't see why I should get involved.



fiery -> RE: Do you get or want a say in who's your child's teacher? (10/3/2009 3:54:06 PM)

Excellent point about them all being different. I had some I hated. My Latin teacher picked on me the first lesson I was there before I'd even sat down at my desk! She bawled me out for closing the door behind me. I was last in when we all shuffled in. When I shut the door she went bananas, screeching at me that it was HER door and HER classroom and if SHE wanted the door closed, SHE would DO IT!!!

I was mortified. I'd never ever been in trouble in a class and she scared the life out of me. After that I hated her. She wanted me to continue on with Latin (the way it was set up only the top two classes within that grade year were taught the subject for a year) and the following year was when we chose our subjects. I refused because even though I was good at it and she warmed to me after discovering she knew some relative of mine, she was the only Latin teacher. No way was I going to spend another three years in her class!

Teachers don't appreciate the damage they do either.

Sandy, I agree with you. I think it's wrong that parents should even be allowed to do that unless there's been some kind of big and I mean BIG conflict.




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