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ArticlePost -> I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (10/15/2009 8:53:06 PM)

Are you feeling overwhelmed being a parent? Do you want to feel more relaxed and empowered raising your child? Working parents, stay-at-home parents, visiting parents – it doesn’t matter which one you are because these days almost every parent feels overwhelmed by their daily day.

I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives
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ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (10/15/2009 8:53:06 PM)

Sometimes it's not easy to have time for yourself if you can't get a babysitter.. Some people don't always have "family" support.. I have a 7 year old and I havn't had a single free weekend for 7 years..while other parents get week vacations etc.. So having time to yourself isn't always an option even if it's wanted.

rosebud



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (11/17/2009 7:46:30 AM)

This advise may be ok for some that were able to instill these qualities, but while my daughters were with their dad and his new wife back then, 10 years ago, there are no quidelines to work with. I get walked over, both girls 20 yrs and 15 yrs. old have no respect for me or my husband (their step dad) so what do I do? This 5 step advise does not apply to some parents that can not undo behaviors learned already and their lack of care or concern.

mom confussed



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (1/18/2011 8:29:30 AM)

I agree with Rosebud... not so easy to take time for yourself when you don't have any extended family around to help. We've hired a sitter a few times, but at $10/hr, it's a rare luxury. I KNOW 100% that the reason I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated everyday is because I rarely get time to myself. I feel guilty, but sometimes I consider working full-time because at least it would be an "escape" from the confines of our house and being mommy 24/7. I always thought I wanted to be a SAHM and we saved for years so that we could afford to make it a reality, but now I think maybe I'm not cut out for it. With a 3 year old and a 14 month old, most days are just beyond exhausting.

Beth



fiery -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (1/18/2011 7:55:40 PM)

Welcome, Beth! Nice to meet you. I was thinking...couldn't you form a babysitting circle with other moms, Beth? When my son was young half a dozen of us got together from his nursery school and took turns babysitting for each other. We'd just take our own kids along with us to wherever we were needed if we had to, or have them drop their child at our place. We all got our time alone and it didn't cost us a penny. You may know other moms that are in the same position and would be happy to do that. We did it on a rotational basis, so everyone took equal turns of babysitting or getting their time out. Heck, we didn't even go out as a couple half the time LOL. We just dropped him off and enjoyed having the house to ourselves and being able to watch a movie and have takeout or something. Those hours were precious.

You're working the toughest job there is, Beth and it is exhausting. I know when my son was small and I wasn't working, I used to crave adult conversation that didn't involve children and home. I went back to work part-time and felt much better being out of the house and because I was bringing in something for the kitty. I wasn't cut out for full time motherhood myself, believe me. Rightly or wrongly, I needed the recognition of being something other than the little guy's mom to feel good about myself. I felt quickly that I was losing my identity the longer I stayed at home.

And every mom, working or not, needs "me" time to recharge. Would your partner babysit for a few hours and let you have that? Even just going to the library or a coffee shop, to a movie or walking round the mall yourself for a few hours can be enough to make you feel better. It's easy to get cabin fever when you're a SAHM and I found when I did get that "me" time, I was a better mother because I was less stressed. Even if he took them out and gave you the house to yourself for a while so you can curl up with a book would be good.

You have nothing, repeat nothing to feel guilty about. Consider joining a class of some kind too if that appeals to you. See what your local community center has to offer. Doesn't really matter what it is as long as it's something you think you'll enjoy and a reason to get out of the house every week, alone, and enjoy doing so.

Hang in there, girl! We're here at the Community forum, so come see us anytime and chat. [:D]



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (4/21/2011 1:44:07 AM)

What happens to me is I get overwhilemd by thinking about the future and how my responsibilities will increase

Rawan



fiery -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (4/21/2011 9:16:43 PM)

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What happens to me is I get overwhilemd by thinking about the future and how my responsibilities will increase

Rawan


Hi Rawan, welcome to Family Lobby. The short answer is don't do it! Enjoy your kids today because they'll be all grown up in the blink of an eye. It's better to be in the moment than miss all its gifts while you're worrying about what may or may not happen. Plan best you can for that time, then let it go because you can't do any more than that. [:)]



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (12/5/2011 2:52:48 PM)

It's so hard being a mother, my significant other don't realize my daily routine and really does nothing while I'm home! I have 4 children and a stepchild so just imagine how much I have to do.

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fiery -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (12/5/2011 10:44:34 PM)


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It's so hard being a mother, my significant other don't realize my daily routine and really does nothing while I'm home! I have 4 children and a stepchild so just imagine how much I have to do. <br><br>:(


Then have a day out to yourself when he's off and let him find out. Aren't the kids old enough to pitch in too? Even the smallest ones can pick up dirty socks or similar easy stuff. How much do you allow your kids to do? Sounds like time for a family meeting to divvy up the chores more.



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (2/21/2012 9:08:26 PM)

I can't seem to get my 12 yr old daughter to respect and watch her mouth without threatening everything but physical harm. I have a 15 month old 12 yr old and 19yrold..to top it off a 11 and 14yr old boys from fiance at which he has raised as a single parent since 1 and 3. I'm miles away from my family and friends but 10 min away from his mother whom by the way is Mary Poppins..Help I cant do anything right and I'm losing control of the kids and my sanity!! I am to close to leaving the home.

Nikki



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (2/24/2012 12:53:26 PM)

if someone could please give me some advice on my previuos question i would greatly appreciate it thanks

nikki



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (3/2/2012 3:28:17 PM)

I work full-time, I am completing a Ph.D., my son started Kindergarten which has been a nightmare as "he won't sit down and shut up", took him to an eductional psychologist who tested him etc, he may be gifted but also needs speech therapy. Now I have to add tutoring, speech thearpy, dealing with the school, and this therapist to my already insane schudle or I risk wasting over $100,000 in eduction. Meanwhile my husband's soultion to everything is scream at the kid. And I am just so ready to say f-it all !!!! I feel so alone....I feel like there is nothing left to cut out and no one for me to turn to... no one in my family understands .. none of them even went to school much less had to deal with paying bills / going to school and having children.

HelpKat



ArticlePost -> RE: I'M OVERWHELMED: 5 Tips On How Parents Can Take Control Of Their Lives (3/6/2012 11:23:43 AM)

Hi Kat, I am a mother of 3 I have a 7 yr old 6yr old and 3 yr old n I run A family Home Daycare now that I've decided to leave the work force to stay at home with my Kids. I completed my Ph. D program in child psychology in 2006. And let me tell u I don't know how I did bc my kids were much younger then n I was working a 50hr work week. So just know that u are not alone. N I know it was by God's Grace and my BFF that helped me thru. My only advice is to take a step back and reevaluate what's most important which of course as a mom will be ur child. See if there r tutoring programs offered on the weekend that maybe your husband can be responsible for overseeing. I had to learn that I can't do it all by myself n that my husband had to do his part. My oldest son was speech delayed in pre-k n his school offered speech therapy so they would just take him out of his class for 20 min to do speech therapy. See if your school does this. And when I had a test or important paper to do if I had leave I would take a day off work to devote my time to studying or doing my work. I also had to get it threw my husband big head that we are a family n we have to work together n he had to do his part in helping with the kids. And some days I had to put off washing, put off running an errand or whatever just to give myself a peace of mind because if it didn't get done that day the world wouldn't end.

T



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