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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 10/4/2012 11:48:15 PM   
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We will be divorcing and living together. I have a medical condition where I can't lift heavy things but I am otherwise healthy.But right now I am just trying to figure out how to start over and I'd like my husband to stay here while I do that...and for our 5 year old son.My husband has had several affairs and doesn't have a steady someone but I don't want to be his wife anymore with his infidelity, I also think those have been with men so that's probably why he is isn't up and running to stay with them, since I don't know if they are married too or what.So right now it's really painful but it would be worse if he left immediately and i had to do it all by myself and so I'm just going to take it day by day until I get into see a counselor and then figure out how this will work.My son is benefiting though having both of us here. I think if my husband simply respects the rule NO one comes over our house then I can do this, we only see each other 15 minutes a day in the mornings and only on Saturdays so this is kinda like divorce life but I like having the extra help with breakfast and the extra help with 2 or 3 dinners and the folding the clothes.Otherwise I'd have to pay all that and I can't afford it right now.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 10/24/2012 5:27:42 PM   
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been married a year,he walk out a couple days after year of marriage..he just act like he was never happy,didnt put in effort for us to have thing i got injuried on my job and he didnt step up i had to still wirry bout things..bills etc..just a lot to deal with.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 12/4/2012 8:09:52 PM   
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I decided to separate from my wife on our 20th anniversary. There was nothing left to save in the marriage, so purely for financial and family reasons I am staying in the same house. I live in the basement and we look after the kids together, eat meals together but consider it a marriage in name only now. This makes it tolerable.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 12/29/2012 12:49:41 AM   
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I am dating a man (online)who is 11 months separated and will get his divorce final in a month. He has the ex-wife-to-be live in his house together with the kids but no intimacy or whatsoever. I was raised with different culture than that of the Western and I value family so much, so sometimes I get to think, 'is he not just tricking me?', since they still live like one family, although they no longer eat together. We are set to meet in person in 5 months, but at times the fact that the ex-to-be still lives with him, I get some stuff going on my mind. Do I really need to worry?

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 12/29/2012 3:41:50 PM   
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I am a US resident but a britsh citizen married to a US resident.. we have two children under the age of 2. My husband has a lot of problems.. he is bipolar but won't get help. His mother and people in his family have it also. I have offered to get counselling with him and he won't have it. I tried to save our mariage. But now i need a way out because he is getting violent.. but i have no money, 2 babies and if i go back to england i could lose my children as they are US citizens. He knows this and using this as amo. Any ideas or suggestions?

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 1/2/2013 11:50:17 AM   
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Been married 45 years last week and my husband lives in the basement and I upstairs. We both have our own private entrance and separate keys. We never communicate except to go to the tax man. He never visits me nor do I visit him. We never had sex therfore no kids.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 1/3/2013 5:22:11 AM   
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I married my second husband after 6 monthe living together and was devestated when he announced he didn't want a sexual relationship any more.Fresh from one divorce, I just lived with that for the next nearly 30 years. Then a black man walked into my white world. We are soul mates and very much in love, but I am trapped in the finances my husband and I have set up. My children are convinced I am a wanton woman aided by their stepfather's venom. My advice to anyone beginning this type of marriage is to GET OUT! You never know when the real thing will come along. I certainly had long convinced myself no man could ever love me, but I was very wrong.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 2/4/2013 2:47:40 PM   
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Dee I am in the SAME SITUATION similar age, and age of child! I wish we could communicate more.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 2/11/2013 9:21:47 PM   
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I am in legal separation with my wife more then 3 years. According economic situation my wife offer me to live with her like roommate and pay for rent. It okay for me because the place i live now is more expense then my wife offer. Is this legal to live like roommate

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 6/6/2013 7:43:13 PM   
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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 8/12/2013 9:19:23 AM   
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married for 42 years husband has always been verbally abusive . I discovered he has a very serious porn addiction . claims for 20 years he was impotent. past 6 months its gotten worse. I have Trojan hot jelly and web site information withgod awful language discribng each woman and her assets also her beauty. he walks around in a fog. not financially able to divorce insurance etc live in very small house . separate bedrooms I sleep on floor in living room. we argue a lot he even does this in the truck with the jelly. maggots love this stuff if left on a paper towel. if I could learn to get over his hurtful remarks and the fact that he doesn't see anything wrong with this and live some time during the day away from home it would work out better. he has never been that interested in sex . I never dreamed that this man that reads the bible and claims to be a Christian is doing this im tough I can work out something I cant compete with those porn stars im not a prude and I have never looked at another man

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 8/13/2013 4:57:19 PM   
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Dont get involved with people living this way unless you don't care about monogamous commitment or marriage. It may well be better for them, but even if you live as an open couple, you will never be anything other then a mistress without legal protections. I made this mistake and though he consented to a divorce after breaking up with me (he tried to manipulate me and told me he would divorce and then started backtracking. Dumped me, and was miserable, so he said he needed to move ahead with this anyway because he would never have an emotional divorce without the actual process. Then, we get in a fight and he throws alimony he had to pay as a sacrifice for me. I get blamed for his divorce and alimony?! He told me yesterday he would have preferred I just had accepted his marriage and making me out to be some uptight freak for caring about it. They have lived apart for a decade, so don't think physical separation is all of it. His wife would still flip when he dated and viewed them as a couple even though they were sexless for decade and she had other boyfriends. I was so stupid. Told him to stay married, I wasn't going to be resented for his failed marriage and the money that was going to her. I am leaving the relationship and he can contact me if he gets a divorce out of his own desire.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 9/16/2013 12:00:03 PM   
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i was married for 5 yrs and we were just seperated but now divorced for these reasons. we tried to live seperate lives in one house but it dont work when meeting new people cus they usually leave when finding another woman at the house or u r still tech. married. So my advice just get the a divorce & seperate everything & be civil about it cus not everything is about money. you cant take money with u when u die but when u find love that works it does cus u go to your grave with it

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 1/12/2014 10:22:28 PM   
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We sort of do the same thing! Except we never interact or communicate with each other. Its been this way 46 years now. He has no interest in me or what I do. We had sex once my first last and only, have no kids(that part I hate). He lives in his garage and I the house. We share our property, insurance, benefits, retirement and S.S.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 1/16/2014 4:10:31 AM   
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It looks like my wife and I will be joining this type of living now. My wife is 5 1/2 months pregnant and a pathological liar. She has finally come to the terms of her inability to be honest (even with the smallest thing), but we both work within the us gov't, just bought a house, and have a baby on the way. I have totally lost interest in her her because of her dishonesty, but we both agree the baby cannot live the life we both did growing up in divorced families. Despite the way I feel right now I know I will never trust her again as a spouse should so raising our child is the only thing that matters now. It's been 4 days since the last and final lie as well as us not speaking, but I know we have a long road ahead of us. Sad, but the truth is I'm looking forward to seeing our child grow up, unfortunately it will be with a liar instead of an honest wife. It literally feels like my partner is deceased, but this is the price you pay for this way of life I guess. Wish us luck.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 1/26/2014 9:10:02 PM   
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My partner and I got married six months ago.She got no assets and I have got got half for my retirement and three children from my previous marriage. How can keep my assets seperate?Bill

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 6/18/2015 10:19:22 AM   
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Okay I have been married 35 years and we decided to go ur separate ways. I wanted to live in spain and she carried on living in the UK with her sister. We still communicate and get on well. However I now have to file a tax return in spain there are three items. Single Married Seperated/Divorced/Legally. I completed the separated but we are not legally. SO I now have a problem. My wife is not Spanish not a resident or live here. We do not own a house and she has her pension. The form if you complete for married requests her NIE number well obviously she does not have one. I have my tax demand from spain but now this has arisen. I am however not prepared to pay tax on her as she is not Spanish or a resident or live here. So I now have to await and see what happens. Has anyone any ideas or soulution to this item or am I worrying over nothing.

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 10/21/2016 9:28:48 PM   
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My husband and I just hit the 25 year mark and it has become painfully obvious that we are not in love anymore. We cannot afford to divorce because of financial reasons, can it work to live together, and live separate lives until financial situation changes?

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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 12/21/2016 2:16:33 AM   
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RE: “Separated” Married Couples - 2/17/2017 2:59:20 PM   
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I highly doubt it "works". People just say that to save face. There is no way a couple who stays together for financial purposes is happy unless they've given up completely on love and relationships. I wish people would stop regurgitating this idea publicly, claiming it's a wonderful solution. If you have a history with someone, the hurt and loneliness will continue as you continue living with them unless you are a master of denial.

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