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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/3/2008 6:33:32 AM
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Maz, I am having the same problem with my daughter, at first I thought she was on drugs then changed my mind and now I think she's mentally disturbed. I wish death penalty for daughters could be brought back in SA!
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/3/2008 12:22:16 PM
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I wish death penalty for daughters could be brought back in SA!
what?!?
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/14/2008 12:35:13 PM
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Easier said than done; it's always been the case.My 13 year-old has become more canning than ever.No matter how I approach her problem with her schoolwork she always manages to tap into the element that I'm only human. I'm not perfect to follow through with keeping an eye on every single rule that needs to be kept by her, and she knows that!She will gradually fall right back into her lazy Fs and keep them from me until I get her reportcard. I cannot trust her at all.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/15/2008 8:37:45 PM
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You know this is not the same world I grew up in and to even think about the pressures kids have today makes me glad I'm not a kid anymore too. Things are way to fast. Does anyone have a sit down meal anymore? Does anyone talk to their child? No I mean really talk to their children anymore? I'm not talking about the 15 minutes you have before they go off to school or the few minutes as their going off to some sporting event or club meeting? There are to many video games, to many tv shows and cell phones in this world. Can't change these facts but as parents we have to spend time with our children, real time. Start when they are young so they grow up to like us. Sure ask them if they LOVE you, well most of the time they will say yes. But do they like you as a person? Being a parent is scary but just think back to how it felt to be a kid? Just my thoughts.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/27/2008 7:51:12 PM
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My stepson's attention doesn't span. He will not do his homework, and he'll spend an hours energy getting out of fifteen minutes of homework. He has no regular responsibilities. I have taken away all video games and other interests until he gets his grades up. It isn't working! His mother constantly gives in to him, how can I get through to her? I'm about sick of the phrase "whatever".
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/10/2008 5:13:36 AM
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My teen Daughter sleeps when she comes home from school and is very quickly putting on weight. She also seems depressed. We agreed that she should take the dog out for a long brisk walk after school, I hope this will help her to overcome the constant tiredness and make her feel better about herself. I like your idea of taking away pocket money unless she keeps this up.. I think that will work.
Emy
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/14/2008 3:53:48 PM
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Ohhhh That "Whatever" Phrase. I do not like it. I finally found a way to stop it. After I told her the rule of not saying it because it was rude and disrespectful. and that it meant to me that she was blowing what I said off, the next time she said it to me, she had to write it 100 times. The next is 200 and so on. She has only gotten to 500 times and it has been 3 months since I put it into effect.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 12/2/2008 2:08:46 AM
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my twelve year old daughter just sits and watches videos the entire day. she refuses to do any work around the house.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 12/20/2008 6:46:15 AM
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It's the same in Australia.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 12/23/2008 6:47:37 PM
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I am the step-mom...so I am the "bad guy" aound here. My husband's 17-year old - wannabe rapper -does absolutely nothing. On his Christmas break he spends endless hours on the internet, watching tv, or playing video games. He has no chores that he is responsible for in our home. My husband will not make his son do anything. It is driving me crazy....and it makes us argue. I have been told that I am not the one who can disciipline...it is his father's responsiblity. My husband goes to work in the day and the boy is here all day with me. Just has no ambition....what can I do to ignore this and act like it doesn't bother me? I feel like the child here....The boy gets away with everything! Someone give me some advice before i go crazy
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 12/24/2008 12:43:57 PM
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I turn off internet access and TVs and video games. My children have never been allowed to veg all day long. They need to do something productive, and if they complain they are "bored", they are put to work.
Internet, TV and video games are not allowed ANY day unless all chores are completed.
I would tell hubby, that HE needs to set up some chores for his son or take his butt to work with him. When my step son was here, hubby would have him mow the lawn, work on a project or he would take him to the office and put him to work. I didn't discipline my step son, never had to, but you better believe that he was expected to uphold the same rules as the other children in the house.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/4/2009 8:59:16 PM
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my problem with my child is that she has a huge weight gain....she has IBS n gerd and is sick a lot...Dr. says to get her moving to loose the weight but she is always sick...I am not sure what to do...when she is not sick she does not do her walking...other than this she is great kid, no talking back or anything!!!thanks
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/22/2009 8:17:46 AM
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Hi there, wow some great advice. I have a 16yr old boy with some special needs. He is failing his grades and doesn't seem to care. I cannot figure out if this is laziness or if he is struggling with the work. I have taken everything away, phone, music, sports, computer everything he enjoys. He is even grounded, so no friends. It doesn't seem to be working. I am at my witts end, when asked to do something his remark" yah I will , or later" so then I freak out and then he hauls ass, but I do not like to have to reach that point (which seems to be happening more often)HELP!
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/22/2009 2:36:37 PM
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We have a 14 year old who is struggling in all classes except 1 (the only one he "likes". His organizational skills are horrible and he can never seem to remember to do anything that involves school or chores. We have taken away video games, cell phone, internet, and have grounded him during the school week. Still it seems he doesn't care. All teachers have said he is more than capable of making the honor role but doesn't apply himself. We are at our wits end and don't know what to do. It seems all the grounding and taking away of things doesn't do any good. How do you motivate this type of person? By the way last year, honor roll. First quarter this year 1 grade from honor role. This quarter 3 grades tha are almost failing.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/23/2009 12:15:31 PM
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my problem with my child is that she has a huge weight gain....she has IBS n gerd and is sick a lot...Dr. says to get her moving to loose the weight but she is always sick...I am not sure what to do...when she is not sick she does not do her walking...other than this she is great kid, no talking back or anything!!!thanks
kimmer
kimmer, that's great that you have such a good kid, congrats. :) Have you tried finding out how other parents that deal with those special circumstances handle it? There's a few sites listed here that relate to those conditions where she could connect with other kids and you could connect with parents that understand it better. Make sure you check out the "Resources for Parents " part too on the left.
http://www.ideaskids.com/teens/teenssupport.html
I thought that would be more helpful than any suggestions I could make. :) What age is she if you don't mind me asking? Is it possible she's depressed as well? I think meeting other kids online that are going through what she is too may help.
Do you have a dog or could you borrow one to walk? She might find that a bit more fun than just plain walking. Even if you could take her to a nice park to walk around, the change of scene might encourage her. Good luck, kimmer and keep us posted on how it goes. :)
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/24/2009 10:00:30 AM
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And when all that fails shoot the kid.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/24/2009 5:29:53 PM
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wow! I surely hope that was made in jest 
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/24/2009 6:27:21 PM
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wow! I surely hope that was made in jest
I second that emotion. And even if it was, I still don't find that funny.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/27/2009 3:45:46 AM
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To be honest my daughter hates doing P:E but i don't care much for it she tells me she smokes and she has sex, she got caught giving oral sex but what can i do it's her life i will try and guide her if she don't want to listen owell, her mum left us so i think that has an impact on why she is the way she is. she is only 15 and is currently pregnant i am happy for her and wouldnt cahnge her for the world! i will let her drink smoke whatever at the end of the day it's her life and i just want her to be happy.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/27/2009 3:52:21 AM
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HI,I HAVE 2 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN AND I NEVER SEEM TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ASKING ANY OF THEM TO DO CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE.THEY DONT REALLY PLAY VIDEO GAMES AND THEY ARE ONLY ALLOWED TO CONTACT THEIR FRIENDS WITHOUT MY PERMISSION. WHEN THEY GET OUT OF LINE THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE GETTING. I MIGHT SOUND STRICT, BUT YOU MOTHERS NEED TO TAKE A LEAF OUT OF MY BOOK. REMEMBER YOU ARE THE PARENT AND THEY ARE YOUR CHILD WHEN THEY LEAVE YOUR HOUSE THEN THATS WHEN THEY CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT.
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