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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 6/24/2010 4:13:46 PM
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My 18 year old is driving me crazy. When I ask her to do something, it takes forever to get it done. Then when I remind her, she says I nag all the time. She only works every other weekend. She has been trying to get another part-time job but no luck. She doesn't help with household chores unless I "nag" her. help
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 7/31/2010 3:48:32 AM
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Teenagers are so lazy. Everything they do, from the time they wake up in the morning until they go to bed at night. Their laziness has resulted in sky- rocketing obesity rates among Australian teenagers. They spend up to 4 hours along watching the television and even mor time on the computer. Please help, my two best friends and flatmates are both overweight, lazy and sit on the computer and watch TV all day. I have tried everything you can think of to help them, but nothing seems to work.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 7/31/2010 4:49:10 PM
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Welcome to Family Lobby, Tyler. :) If you've tried there's not much else you can do apart from setting a good example. Don't end up like them! Be fit and healthy and get into outside activities. When they see your tan and you getting all the attention from the girls, I bet they'll think about shaping up more.  Just make sure the flatmates do their fair shares of the chores.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 8/9/2010 1:01:54 PM
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i hope this helps me & it has good information thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 8/22/2010 8:16:56 PM
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I teach roughly 350 teenagers. Without a surprise 98% are simply chronic lazy bums. I generally just shift the accountability of doing work onto them. Surprisingly roughly 60% come around when it is in their best interest. I believe every country needs some dole bludgers!!!
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 8/24/2010 9:46:26 AM
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What's a dole bludger?
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/19/2010 3:38:14 PM
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I'm experiencing the same problem as frustrated step dad. My teen does not respect me or his siters except when he needs something or wants to borrow something. He has no repsect for the house rules, me, or the law. he has gotten into some trouble and when he had the opportunity to clear his record he failed that as well. He refuses to go to school and when he does he doesn't stay there long. He continues to destroy the house I work so hard to provide for us. I am at my wits end and the only reason he's not out is because I just don't know where he'll go and then I worry about him being out there with no home. HELP!!! Any advice?
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/28/2010 2:16:47 PM
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I am at my wits end. My son is 15. He does not want to do his chores, his homework, or anything productive. All he wants to do is play video games (weekends only) and begs me for money to go to the mall. My problem is, he refuses to even try to get decent grades. He hides his homework, he lies about it and when he finally gets caught in a lie, he blames others. His father is a bum. The man quit his job, stating he was sick of being worked to death. He ofers no financial help and is just a plain loser. I do not ask this kid for much, but he offers no cooperation. I want him to move with his dad, but that will just set him up to fail.There are times I wish he would just turn 18 and get the hell out of my house. I sometimes feel sorry I had him. If I could do it over again.......
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 10/29/2010 12:37:11 PM
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Hi Miss J. I would say to perhaps ask a professional for some advice with dealing with the issues of wishing you didn't have him. As for the other stuff, I would take away the games, and mall money and sit him down at the table and watch him do his homework.
Maybe if you show him you are interested in what he's doing, he may become more interested...just a thought...
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/8/2010 3:06:18 PM
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Ya, well this child takes the cake, this is sometime to be my stepchild, no rush to call her that either. She is 17 yrs old and soon to be 18 I never in my life come across someone that is so LAZY,DISRESPECTFUL,SELFISH,INCONSIDERATE,DIRTY, DESTRUCTIVE AND JUST PLAIN NASTY. The language is out of this world and now she is pregnant. I witness the abuse she gives her mother and as a door matt is, her mother takes it and I get furious because Ihave to ;isten ans live with this kid. I was never brought up that way.We have a 8 month old and I now fight with her because I refuse to take it. This child is lacking common sense and she lies all the time about EVERYTHING, UNREAL!!!!!What should I do?
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/8/2010 5:29:55 PM
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Hi Dan, welcome aboard.
That is a tricky situation for sure....is your girlfriend/wife open to counseling? It sounds dire on your end, so I would suggest all three of you talking to someone before the situation gets any worse.
I don't know of an easier fix....
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/9/2010 12:48:52 PM
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it's sad you feel this way about her, Dan. I hope that the 3 of you can work things out somehow, because I don't see it ending well with the frustration and attitude you have with her now.
I agree with Christine - professional help and please go in with an open mind.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/16/2010 5:12:18 AM
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im sick of picking up smelly jocks and socks and then getting verbally abused by a lazy ungrateful brat
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 11/19/2010 9:05:20 AM
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hmmm, harsh. I guess the question is: Why pick them up then?
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 12/19/2010 6:18:34 PM
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My son is 17 daughter16 the most important thing my wife and I have done for our children is give the a safe secure and loving home I never missed any of their school productions meeeting ect. I have always given them the opportunity to try any sport or any thing else with our full support,fortunate ly my son has played rugby all the way through from six to now. my son has now passed his driving test which we paid for half of the car, and all the insurance for one year on the understanding that he pay the insurance the following year which is due in 3months £1200 has he saved any money? NO. has he found a part time job? NO. has he written up a c.v.? NO. does he want us to help him with his c.v.? NO. does he do any chores around the house when asked?NO. is he always rude to us? yes. does he continuously ask for money? yes. At this moment in time Ilove him dearly but I dont like him he is lazy rude and for ever wanting MONEY we dont give in to him now only what we should pay for him whilst he is at college because he does nothing to contribute at all. He has brought a side out of me i didnt know i had. for christmas i have bought him 2 tyres for his car as i dont think he deserves any other type of gift and i find that really difficult to be like that, yet he is so selfish.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 12/19/2010 8:38:03 PM
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My son is 17 daughter16 the most important thing my wife and I have done for our children is give the a safe secure and loving home I never missed any of their school productions meeeting ect. I have always given them the opportunity to try any sport or any thing else with our full support,fortunate ly my son has played rugby all the way through from six to now. my son has now passed his driving test which we paid for half of the car, and all the insurance for one year on the understanding that he pay the insurance the following year which is due in 3months £1200 has he saved any money? NO. has he found a part time job? NO. has he written up a c.v.? NO. does he want us to help him with his c.v.? NO. does he do any chores around the house when asked?NO. is he always rude to us? yes. does he continuously ask for money? yes. At this moment in time Ilove him dearly but I dont like him he is lazy rude and for ever wanting MONEY we dont give in to him now only what we should pay for him whilst he is at college because he does nothing to contribute at all. He has brought a side out of me i didnt know i had. for christmas i have bought him 2 tyres for his car as i dont think he deserves any other type of gift and i find that really difficult to be like that, yet he is so selfish.
SIR JOHN
Hi Sir John, nice to meet you and welcome to Family Lobby. :) Personally I think it was generous of you to even do that. I'd be taking the car keys away from him and giving them back when he has earned the insurance money. Or if he gets a job he can't walk to, either let him drive it back and forth to work and that's all. He'll find a job soon enough when he learns to appreciate what having wheels means.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/2/2011 8:35:55 AM
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These kids just probably needs a push from their parents. Enforce tough love or sending them to a boarding school where strict standards are implemented. They might just learn life lessons from there. Although it's also important to personally look for a school where your child can be safe and their needs are really met.
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 1/25/2011 4:04:31 PM
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My boyfriends son sleeps all day, won't get a job, is in trouble with the law and Dad won't do squat to get him off his butt. The Mother won't let him live with her ... not sure if its the new hubby or if she is scared the son (almost 20) will embarass her, i won't even go there with that excuse for a Mother... In any event, I'm seriously upset that my BF won't either kick his son out or set some kind of boundaries with consequences. The kid doesn't even clean up after himself. I blame my BF, how do I go about talking to him about this without pissing him off. Marriage is in the talks and I have a 19 and 17 year old boys that both have jobs and are responsible. HELP
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 2/26/2011 6:48:41 AM
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I'm a mother of six, of which 4 is still living with us. The youngest is only 10, but the others are 18,21 and 23 respectively. The 23 year old is very good and help me and my husband in our own venture and hardly demand anything. The 18year old think it is his right that when he does something for us it is his right to use our cars, and if we say know it is a big fight. His argument is the one han wach the other, but he recon living for free in my house is a obligation and not a gift from my side. The 21 year is a girl, and refuse to help me with anything, unless it is to drive to the shop or the bank with my car, at which time she stay away for a vary long time. Her boyfriend come to visit on weekends and I still have to cook and do all the dishes on my own. Their reasoning is that I wanted custody for them when I devorced their father, and therefor they my responsability. Their fater immigrated back to the UK shortly after our devorce and it took me years to trace him, and then I only could get a very small amount of money out of him for the 4 kids. My second husband asways treated them as his own and worked long hours overtime to support them, and always gave them financial and emotional support. My health is not very good, but they never seem to understand it, and emotionally I am also at breaking point. Money is very short, but they are always fed and looked after. I did all of the above when they were at school, but it seems that it didn't help. Please have you got answers for me! What do I do?
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RE: How to Deal with Lazy Teenagers - 3/10/2011 6:29:55 AM
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I live in a household that includes an almost 17-year-old girl, who is not mine but my roommate's. She overall is a good child, but as lazy as they come. Her older brother, who is now a Marine, was somewhat of problem, nothing drastic, so to her father she is perfect. However, she is always demanding, very seldom asking, for money for this and that; however, if she even washes dishes once a month, it is a miracle, and that is only when asked to. Her room stays in a mess, leaves things laying around the rest of the house, food in the sink, etc. She basically has the whole upstairs to herself, spending all her time on the phone or internet; so when she says she has homework, which daddy buys into, she is too busy to help around the house. Her mother contributes nothing to her, which is a very sad situation; but she is not mine and I do and give and take to the point it is driving me nuts. She expects anything and everything, and I am having a hard time dealing with this, especially when there is no support from her father -- he actually gets mad at me when I mention it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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