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ArticlePost -> RE: Would You Remarry Your Ex-Spouse? (8/19/2009 12:27:38 PM)
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I never would have believed it, but I am going through this same thing. My ex-husband and I married two weeks after I turned 18. That afternoon, we moved from Missouri to Virginia... he had only been married a few days when he left for his first two week Navy cruise. He had signed up for the Navy only a few months prior to the wedding. We had our son a week after our one year wedding anniversary. A month later, he left for a 6 month Med Cruise with the Navy. I was in a strange city, state, and not knowing anyone else, I didn't know where to turn. Just three months later, I came back to Missouri to be with my family. I found a man here who gave me the attention I was craving. I was adamant that my marriage was over and went for a divorce. He fought the idea, was adamant that we could work it out. I was young, immature and stubborn. We were divorced in '99. Currently, he is going through his third divorce. I never remarried, but I did have a few significant relationships over the years, but none of them ever felt like 'the one' to me, so they didn't last. In the last few months, our 13-year old son has been having issues, and I had no choice but to involve his father in them. Until then, I hadn't really talked to him in about 5 years. We have done some major talking and realized that a bunch of mistakes back then. We hugged goodbye one morning and at that moment, I realized then and there that I really caused a lot of hurt to a lot of people when I left him… I hurt him, myself, our son and many others along the way. I realized that this was the reason none of my other relationships survived… I couldn’t give them my whole heart, because someone else still held part of it from years past. But at the same time, I realized that even if I hadn’t left him back in ’96, chances were that we still wouldn’t have made it. I had a LOT of growing up to do. We are both the same people we have always been, just a lot more mature than we were back then. We have realized over the years that there are some things that are worth standing your ground for, but there are many more things that are not worth it, and by doing so, you only hurt the ones you care most about. The most important thing, is we still have the deep love for each other we had back then. He has already asked me if when his divorce is over, and he asks me to marry him again, if I will say yes. I have told him that I have two answers for that question...1-we will cross that bridge when we come to it, and 2- as of right now, nothing would make me happier than being his Mrs. again. I have to believe that dreams really do come true, because I have some that have.
Charmaine
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