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Teaching Teens Responsibility - 3/25/2008 1:59:08 PM
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Many parents bemoan the fact that their teens are irresponsible. They do not keep their room clean, they’re lackadaisical about homework, and they haven’t sent a thank you note since they learned cursive writing.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 3/25/2008 1:59:08 PM
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Excellent points of parental/adult advice.Thank you very much.
Lorraine Gibbs
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 10/4/2008 11:24:16 AM
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i second this.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 2/17/2009 7:22:05 AM
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I needed to hear exactly what you said - thanks!
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 9/4/2009 11:19:09 PM
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I have a 17 year old daughter. She is lazy, rebellious and overweight. I took all of her privileges away (TV, radio, internet access, telephone) and told her the only way she could get them back, is to perform all of her chores two weeks in a row. That was a month ago! Each time she neglects a chore, it counts against her and we go back to square one. No chores, no privileges. She just basically goes to school everyday, do home work, shower,sleep and eat. I am trying to teach her domestic skills by giving her chores, so she can have a head start on living independent when she graduates from school next year. But she refuses to do them. I make dinner for myself and give her the option to have a PBJ or bologna sandwich and a glass of milk. Because she did not help prepare the dinner. For breakfast, she has cold cereal, she eats lunch at school. If she is not willing to learn how to cook while under my care, thats what she will be eating anyway once she's finally on her own. And she will be on her own at 18 years. She will get a job and move out of my home. She will then know the meaning of "working to survive" or "do without". If she does not work, she cannot have a cell phone, TV, radio or internet. And if she is too lazy to clean up, she will have to hire someone or perish in her own filt. This is the story of a rebellious child who wants to be grown. But don't want to act grown.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 10/10/2009 10:41:57 AM
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excellant wording i will understand this very well
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 10/12/2009 7:46:53 AM
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I don't know what I would do if I had that type of rebellion in my life. It sounds very frustrating for sure, sorry.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 3/5/2010 12:09:26 PM
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My step daughter who is 16 has been living with my husband and I since last June. This was a request by her that we take her mother to court for a custody change. Everything that has been written we have tried. She has nothing other than homework and sleep time because of the laziness and I can not find anything that motivates or affects her. She trouble to remember to take the garbage out each night. Any suggestions on what would possible help? I am just concerned that this behavior will rub off on my 5 and 7 year old.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 4/24/2010 4:59:29 PM
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I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER AND FIND OUT WHAT IS THE PROBLEM.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 4/25/2010 6:25:19 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: ArticlePost
My step daughter who is 16 has been living with my husband and I since last June. This was a request by her that we take her mother to court for a custody change. Everything that has been written we have tried. She has nothing other than homework and sleep time because of the laziness and I can not find anything that motivates or affects her. She trouble to remember to take the garbage out each night. Any suggestions on what would possible help? I am just concerned that this behavior will rub off on my 5 and 7 year old.
frustrated step-mom
Obviously she's unhappy and you and your husband are unhappy. She's not going to see that her laziness is the problem until you make her. She's lived elsewhere and has the same issues I presume. Ask the school and your doctor what you can do before you worry yourself to death. Why prolong the agony? You've both tried, she hasn't. You need more professional help to get through to her before she influences the little ones.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 6/2/2010 10:03:34 PM
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Excellent articles, exactly what I needed. I have set no rules and no boundries for my son to follow, he is almost 14, he doesn't remember anything that we told him to do, no consquences either. This has ruined my relationship with my partner, he said he had enough, we must make some drastic changes before its too late. I want to set up list of rules he must to follow and he said he is happy with that too, because without direction and concequences, children normally just lost.
Sarah
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 6/3/2010 2:42:06 PM
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Exactly, Sarah, And that's your job as a parent, not your son's. He's almost 14 and has never suffered consequences? Why? Your partner is absolutely right. You need to act now and BE CONSISTENT. The biggest thing I hear over and over is that the kids don't follow the rules when the problem is that the parents don't enforce them at all or they do so for a week or two then goof off. Kids can't be blamed for taking advantage of parents being lax. Your son agreeing with that shows he's crying out for some guidance from you both. You need to all sit down together and come to an agreement. Then there are no misunderstandings or misinterpretations. If you're all there, you all hear what's being said and can ask questions or get clarification there and then.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 6/8/2010 2:33:51 PM
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my teen step son pretty much does what he wants and when i as a step dad trys to give him responsiblity his mother gets on my but saying "he's in school and doesnt cause me no problems" i try telling my wife that he needs to learn some responsibility and always come to a fight between me and my wife i understand it's a mothers love but when can i actually draw the line and get my step son to be more responsible i did try and talk with my wife to no avail i am in a tough decision on wether to walk out or stay this been going on for years
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 7/16/2010 6:29:42 PM
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Great article. Wish I saw it earlier so I didn't have to figure it out the hard way. My son used to be so rebellious, rude, truant, snarly etc. He wanted to be treated like an adult but did not behave like one. He was very irresponsible. He leaves home middle of the night to be with friends without locking the front door, and leaving the front gate wide open jeopardizing the family's safety every night despite having told off repeatedly. Once he went to college, 2 hours flight away I found the opportunity. He have to rely on me sending money to him. He would starve otherwise, without all the skills he refused from me. This was when I taught him real lessons of being an adult.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 7/20/2010 12:51:21 PM
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Sounds like part of the problem is YOU waited 17 years too, too, too late to figure out how to help/demand a responsible lifestyle!! I guess my taaxes will go to her delinquency too!!! :(.....
Claire
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 7/20/2010 12:56:18 PM
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Bad parenting begets bad parenting!! You guys are Phi Beta Kapppa at this!! Poor WORLD!! (What a pun!!! Look it up!! I'm sure you all have no clue what a pun is!) :(.....
Claire
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 7/23/2010 1:13:59 AM
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Claire, I suggest you refrain from being rude. If you're incapable of doing so I'll delete any of your subsequent posts. Feel free to express your opinion without the snide uninformed generalities. People come here for help, not to be yelled at. Could you not offer a more constructive comment instead of just ranting? If not, don't waste your time typing it. Thank you.
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 9/10/2010 8:23:49 AM
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My now-15 year old moved in with us last June. There are 4 of us in the home. His older brother (17) has always been in my custody, and my son requested the change. He is not motivated by anything-he isn't interested in sports or any other extra-curricular activities. We take them places alot-amusement parks, zoo, go carts...and he complains the entire time. If we stay home, he complains about that too. He has few friends, and when he does visit them he texts me constantly and wants to come home. I try not to compare him to his older brother, who has a job, is involved with church and athletics, and has a very active social life. He has even taken his younger brother along on Youth trips and to hang out with his friends, but finally stopped out of frustration. We all have tried talking to my son but he just says nothing's wrong. He has moments where he can be very funny and sweet-he just seems lost sometimes.Any suggestions?!
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 6/25/2011 8:51:30 PM
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sounds like your son is going through emotional problems which is common for kid his age...when i was younger i went through something very similar my parents took me to see a counselor that really helped. but your son must take it seriously you will only get out of it what you put into it..its really inportant for young people to talk with people they can trust, other than there parents
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RE: Teaching Teens Responsibility - 7/28/2011 12:45:31 PM
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I don't know how old your post is, "Mom needs ideas," but I feel compelled to point out that your 15-year-old may be experiencing some physical -- as well as emotional -- problems that need to be addressed. Has he been evaluated for depression, for ADD, or for SADS? My children have combinations of these conditions, and they are truly debilitating, making it very hard for children to lead happy, normal, productive lives.
Cinda
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