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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 11/4/2011 10:19:29 AM
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Well Rhonda what if your doing everything right? What if he just has a serious lust/pervertic problem? He wasn't satified with just the videos, sexting, and internet cheating and they wanted to fufill their lustful desires with someone other than their wife! I feel there are no excuses for cheating spouses. I'd rather you just divorce me than to cheat on me.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 11/18/2011 8:56:27 AM
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I think in most cases both spouses are equally responsible of the breakdown of the marriage. They are usually weak people that can't leave the marriage first and then the other weakl willed spouse opts to forgive. But they never forget. What a miserable existence and a sad excuse for a marriage.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 11/23/2011 11:54:30 AM
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Podsister you are dead on!! I have been betrayed and the first thought is what did I do, what can I change to fix this we have a child to consider? There is too much time invested. Then I got angry, . . .realized that I wouldn't want my daughter to grow up and be accepting of this type of behaviour. I have ended my victimization and have every plan to show my daughter what a strong woman is and should a "real man" ever cross my path I will be sure that she knows that is as well. Right now the pieces are small but they can and will be put back together.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 11/28/2011 6:20:39 AM
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I stayed with my cheating spouse and we had twins 2 years later, I regret staying with him but do it to keep our family together I'm a shell of a person now...........i am head strong and stubborn but my heart always broken.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 12/26/2011 11:01:11 PM
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Hi Everyone,
Im sorry i couldnt find a page like this for "partners" as we are not married YET so i hope this aint a problem but i need some advise , my story goes something like this:
I have been with my partner for 6years and we have 3kids. When he first met me he knew I had a son whos father wasnt in the picture but my son wasnt a problem for him, he took him in as his own and he was really good with him. It wasnt until we had our first child together things started to change and i blame that on living with the inlaws. We started fighting alot and we just didnt have any privacy. I knew we had to get out so me and my boys packed up and left because my partner didnt want to leave his family. So i stood on my own for a while and he came when he felt like it and when we needed something. My door was always open to him because i didnt want to have another son with no dad. I was always independent and supported my boys the best I could. We were drifting apart i could feel it , one night i went over to his families to see the boys when he babysat for one weekend and found him in the car chatting with 2 girls. I was sooo hurt i wanted to leave him right there and then but he assured me they were random girls he only met and just chatted to them - how dumb of me to take him back urgh!.. but then when he came over another time he left his phone and on it he had sooo many girls numbers on it but i only managed to write one of the numbers down because i needed to know and when i rang she told me they were only mates but the funny thing was she knew basically everything about him! I confronted him and he just brushed it aside and said he needed someone to talk to but i wasnt there - I left him , it was hard being solo mother to 2kids and we needed alot of support which i didnt really have much of . As time went by i slowly let him back into my life (i know) but i still loved him he was a good guy and he had alot to learn about being a family and his reposibilities. So we brushed past aside and said okay now we are growing up we need to focus on our kids and our family. That was 2years ago and he promised and assured me that it was going to stop!
So we finally have settled into our new home and we are happy, we have been blessed with our baby girl this year and our family has finally come together. He has growen up so much we both have matured and he works hard for me and the kids and he is commited more then me i think lol.. well everything was going great until one day at work i was browsing the net i found some photos on his mothers profile that didnt add up. As he was the only child my kids would of been her only grandchildren but she had another baby on there that she was calling her grandson. I put the pieces to puzzle together and later found out that this child was his. He had a one night stand and she fell pregnant 2years ago when we were going through that on and off stage and him and his family have kept it a secret from me since. Im crushed more then ever and now i just think to myself i should have left him back then and so on ....even worst we were planning to get married in 2months time !!
Everyone including him has told me he hasnt had anything to do with the child and he doesnt want anything to do with the child , he said it was the biggest mistake of his life and he is sorry. I was crushed he doesnt want to go and doesnt want to give me space because hes scared hed loose us. I dont know what to do now whether to leave him or continue?? his family is going to continue seeing the child which i dont mind because the child is innocent but when i see it his mother seems happier with the other woman having photos with her and her family and its like are u serious?? urrrgh !
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 1/22/2012 5:42:13 AM
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My husband after almost 39 years of marriage,I've found that he has met a woman while drinking with mates at a pub.Apparently he embraced her and cuddled her while fondling her breasts! no one seemed to mind as they were all having "fun,I was disgusted that he would do such a thing particularly as he'd had a 'special friendship' with a girl he met at the gym,that was very shattering at the time & I still talk about it!Now with this woman,I teally don't know what to do,should I divorce him? or try to somehow sort things out? the problem is,that I always visualize what he did with her and that's everytime I look at him!! I'm on antidepressants,because I can't cope with this life!!!!please somone with sound advice hepl me!!!
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 2/11/2012 7:02:23 PM
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Who is worse the husband who cheats or the woman who knows he's married?
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 2/11/2012 11:27:29 PM
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MEN JUST ARE NOT WORTH MY TIME AND I AM STRAIGHT
KATE
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 2/18/2012 6:02:05 PM
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Hello from far away,
As far as the man's cheating is concerned, I can say one thing for sure: Men who takes extra care of their looks/clothes/presentation are the ones who are far more prone to cheat in marriage.
That's my observation from the real world: I have 2 friends who are married, one of them is very talkative and wears good clothes all the time. He searches for new girls whenever and wherever he can, and does all he can do with his newly met girls then he just returns home and appears to his wife and his kid as if nothing extraordinary has happened!
The other men I know takes extreme care of his body and constantly goes to the body building, he wears attention-gathering sunglasses and sometimes necklaces. He searches for sex whenever he feels like, as if it's a natural right given to him by the nature itself. It's just a natural thing for him to have the wildest sex with a female and then return home to help his daughter on her homework.
Both of their wives seem to be happy with their lives , though!
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 3/3/2012 11:15:12 PM
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i am the other women in this hell whole, and it wasent me that lied and did anything wrong, i had no clue he was a married man, and after months of seeing him and sex on a day to day basis, i found out hw was married, it crushed me and i feel apart, i am so deeply hurt and am so in love with him still. how do i just go on with my life without him? i need to and cant seem to do it, but he just wont leave me alone and its bee a year in a half of this. i need help to get on with my life. this is so hard, and his wife stays with him and blames and bothers me. he has cheated on her before and she stays, why would she stay.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 3/7/2012 1:28:14 PM
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Perspective from a guy who strayed fron home. Wife decided she wasn't interested in romance, sex anymore. I had a heart to heart with her several times about the lack of affection, romance, and sex. She promised to try and do better each time, but "better" never came about. Got involved with another woman to get needs met. Both of us were married with the same problem at home. We started off this relationship with neither of us having any intention of leaving our respective marriages; figuring that we could keep things at a "friendship with benefits" type relationship. Things progressed far beyond that, and to make a long story short, we both ended up divorcing, and have been married for 7 years now. Do I have any regrets? Yes and no. I truly regret the way I ended up leaving my first marriage. I realize now that the love my first wife and I once felt for each other had been missing long before my affair begain, but I stayed put for the benefit of my 3 young adult kids to get a jumpstart in life. What I should have done was to end my first marriage before I ever became involved with someone else. There is still friction between me and my kids because of this(egged on by my ex-wife, mostly), and things are complicated in that regard. The best advice I can offer ANYONE who is unhappy in a marriage, is to exhaust every possible option; counseling, etc. before you walk out, and wait until you are legitimately divorced before getting into another relationship...it'll be well worth the wait..."Been there and done that".
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 3/16/2012 11:51:18 PM
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Had every base been covered? I suppose not since you have given up on yall The momont you put your needs before hers was the point the love had gone the outward sign, if you will. Your conversations you claim to have had. I suspect were your "kind demanding" of your "needs" being met, what ever they were , blinded your desire to know your wife... Obviously somthing was causing her to put her needs before yours ... What happend?? Why was she so cold to you, was that the way to inturrupt her . Was she withdrawn?? WHY?? Why wasnt she impotant enough to you??? Why wasnt she qorth the trouble??? Say what you want, but my observations support men dont want to know what to do ... They just want what they when they want it..
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 3/29/2012 9:16:10 AM
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My husband cheated when we were separated and I came to our home one day(to get some things)and I walked into our home and found this "crack addict" laying in our bed. Of course...I escorted her out! He said it was a one night stand and that he had been drinking...Well, time went on and I decided to try and fix our marriage. I came back home, but still dont trust him, so I set up my web cam to record anything that was going on while I was away. I have a recording of him having sex with someone, in our home, when he was supposed to be at work. This is killing me inside, and he swears it wasnt him and that he doesnt hear the sex taking place. It is very clear on the tape, but the voices are muffled, but of course, I know what my husband sounds like when he is having sex. I listen to this tape and it is killing me inside. Everytime I leave home, I am going to think he is sneaking someone inside. I am staying with him because of religious beliefs...God hates divorce...I am supposed to try and make my marriage work. We dont have children...so that is not an issue. I cant bring myself to divorce again. There are many women who deal with it and stay in the marriage. There is no trust and this life is miserable. I feel like I have aged ten years in one month...I cry all the time and feel so lost and stupid to stay in the marriage. And to make things worse...he very seldom has sex with me and when he does, it is quick fast and in a hurry..I am a beautiful, intelligent woman, who knows what to do in the bedroom. We had a great sex life when we first married. We have been married 4 1/2 years. But the sex slowed down to once a month or less..and I left the marriage for 11 months. I came back, because I love my husband. How can someone live with a situation like this?
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 3/30/2012 2:54:52 PM
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my husband has this thing with his coworker. i found out about it a year ago when they were secretly texting each....and his excuse for not sending me a text while he was at work was he was "busy working".....like he doesnt take a five minute breather through a 9 hr period?! all his actions lead to him cheating. and then I found evidence and all hell broke loose. he was mad that i found out. he swore it was nothing, nothing went on, nothing happened. yeah right. we've been together for 5 years and it didnt start out so great. but he always came back to ME......long story short, we were able to make a fresh start in a new place, around new ppl. all of a sudden this older woman comes along-MARRIED at that!- and she gets lipo or some **** and he's automatically chasing after her. it took her awhile to get over him....well, so it seemed. first few months after i found out she would block her number and call at midnight over andover and over again. i contacted HER husband and told him. she stopped. funny thing is, she keeps trying to attract him...impress him whatever you wanna call it. she's dyed her hair a dark color-like mine. she got a new vehicle....right after i got a new one. she's very haunting. and i've had to deal with her myself cuz he doesn't want to hurt her feelings or whatever. but I know i have been doing it all wrong. If he seriously thought he had made a mistake and didn't want her bothering him anymore, bothering US he shoudlve been told her himself. so that she doesn't think I'm the one "blaming and bothering" her. she knows what she's done and what she continues to do. if he still is bothering her, and she wants to be the better person here, she'd tell me straight out whats going on. but she likes it. she likes cheating on her Husband, bless him he goes and fights wars while she's in bed with another man. she likes hurting me. maybe because she had a bad life cuz she had weight problems before....doesnt give her the right to ruin other ppls lives. so wwhen i joke or make stupid comments about her HE GETS DEFENSIVE....how sweet.but here's the thing. I dont have to stay with him but its the only choice I have in order to be able to raise my kids. If I were to move to the only place I have left my kids wouldnt be happy and I wouldnt be happy. But he totally grosses me out. How do I get over him and learn to live with him?????? Ive seen many women do it and I don't know how. How do I get the upper hand.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 4/3/2012 9:47:55 PM
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to the other woman!!! you deserve everything his wife gives you.You chose to get involve with married man with kids.feel sorry for you NO NO NO.whathat you get from her is nothing the pain you were part of causing.your cheating husband ,was that your husband or her?how could you ever want another person feel that kind of pain.So how long before have start an affair with a married man?YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM!!!!
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 5/10/2012 8:40:15 AM
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i honestly think the 98% of cheating men in the world do so because they're insecure and still trying to find themselves. players come in all forms poor, very rich, educated, ugly, handsome, strong, weak.i know because been with 5 and i always ask are u married and they always reply No . I ask do you have another woman and they say No. i make it clear what it is i want yet not long after i hear some strange woman calling me.maybe men need Jesus in their lives ! I dont know i've given up in trying to find a honest single man.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 5/10/2012 12:35:19 PM
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@grossed out and all women. I think that you made some good points. Honestly, I'm single and am dating. If I became serious with someone, I would want to just be with that someone. I never cheated because of trying to find myself. I began to realize this person I was with was not for me. I hoped that they would change and I told them what I needed in a relationship, but they didn't provide me with that. I then ran into someone who did and things happened. I definitely should have handled it different, but I also feel like I gave my girlfriend and opportunity to change. So if he says he's not happy with something and continues to bring it up, odds are he is going to cheat. I guy wants someone that he can rely on to be there for him mentally and physically. I think women tend to focus on what the man can do for them instead of what they can do for the man. Get to know him instead of the guy asking all the questions. I'm eager to be faithful to that right women.
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RE: Why Women Stay With Cheating Husbands - 5/14/2012 11:03:28 PM
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I had two mistresses aside from my long term partner, yet we are still together. At the time we weren't living together and I had many women who were chasing after me. Being alone most nights was certainly a lonely time for me.Finally I relented, what can one time hurt, no one will never know. After a while it became easier to say yes when I was being seduced by another beautiful woman to say yes again.Before my partner moved in I broke it off with the others. These two ladies knew I was cheating with them on my partner, but only became really mad when they found out I was also cheating on them with another mistress.They contacted my partner directly hoping to create a split, but luckily for me and my partner we are still together.Although I am not proud of what i did, I don't think that I am unique as so many guys I know cheat. I just got caught.As soon as I was caught out I admitted my wrongdoing and asked for forgiveness. So far we have been living together for over a year and everything is great
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