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The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/21/2008 7:16:22 PM
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If someone were to ask me if I were honestly happy with my life and all that I have accomplished, I would have to say yes. Oh sure, there are days I am not too impressed with my life, like when my teenage daughter throws one of her hissy fits about something I have done, her stepfather has done, or
The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/21/2008 7:16:22 PM
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thank you for this article, I just came online to cry about how my great friend, my daughter, who is now 16, has been telling her father how much she hates me and I was feeling totally isolated, unloved by all my family, etc, but this article has given me something to laugh about, unfortunately my husband believes everything his little princess tells him, so I guess I will have to be the wicked witch for the time being, until my beautiful daughter returns to her "normal" self, probably 10 years or so !
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 7/20/2008 5:27:50 PM
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Amen....
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 11/17/2008 6:52:57 PM
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I have a daughter that turned 18. She is now in University, but I have had many incidents with her attitudes, lippiness and moodiness. However, things do change as they mature in a positive way.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 1/1/2009 9:55:36 PM
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I have an 18 year old daughter who, for the most part, is a good kid. She's talented, smart, got a big heart. But she's driving me NUTS... There are times I wish to God that LJ, Zanga, MySpace, etc had never been invented and all that existed were the old style diaries. However, I don't live in the 20th Century and neither does she. At 14, she was posting, worldwide, how much she hated me, calling me every dispicable name, including a few names for a prostitute (which I'm most certainly NOT, btw). Her father confronted her about it after we found it. Tears abounded (she wraps him around her little finger and he is SO blind to it) and she switched to another online site, which we found. Our biggest problem is her school work. She's intelligent and every teacher has told us that it's not that she's not capable of the work, it's that she won't DO IT and turn it in on time to get the grades she should have. Unfortunately, because of the NCLB policy and our school district's policy of 'no failure', she and a lot of other kids have gotten the idea that deadlines on assignments are not absolutes, but suggestions. We try to stress, in EVERY way possible, that this is not so, but we're left banging our heads against the wall because we're defeated by the policies.I have decreed that I refuse to release any of her college fund as long as this goes on. I will NOT, under any circumstances, fund mediocrity. She'll go to college on her own accord and have to pay out of her own pocket. When she comes up against a professor who doesn't give a rat's behind about her, only that projects are ON TIME and the way they want it, not the way she wants it, she'll have to accept full responsiblity for her actions.I can only hope and pray that she eventually has a child just like she was. Then once she walks in MY shoes, she'll understand that maybe old Mom wasn't as stupid and dumb and clueless as she thought.And all the time, I'll just smile and say, I love you.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 1/13/2009 12:23:55 AM
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Thanks for this laugh. I just found out my soon to be 16 year old is having sex after all the talks and all the church abstinece classes i taught. I am the mother from hell when it came to where she could go and what she could do. i always called the other parent to check out the situation for myself. I felt comfortable with her boyfriend after a two hour conversation with his parents explaining my expectation of when she was at his house.little did i know his mother would pass out drunk and his dad was never there. i have a 17, 16, 5, 3 year old all girls i really think i will be committed by the year 2015 or atleast the biggest contributor to zoloft you've ever seen.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 1/19/2009 2:46:50 PM
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I have two daughters(20 & 16) who I love dearly, yet it is the worst of times right now. My husband and I have a very good relationship and are homebodies. Both daughters have dabbled in drugs and continue to smoke weed. Both have very active social lifes and are sexually active. We have been to counselling because somtimes you just can't do it alone!!! Yes I can be a **** and we always wonder where we are going wrong. Our lives are also good but it seems few and far between. Many times I know we are blessed to have each other it is just difficult.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 4/28/2009 2:48:08 PM
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all teens are self absorbed jerks.they all have a sense of entitelment i for one will love to see my daughter fall on her ass
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/5/2009 4:28:09 AM
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I dont know whether to laugh or cry, my daughter is 15almost 16. Just found out that she is smoking cigarettes, we are buddies, but still is so hard for me that she is all of sudden not thispure little girl that I can control.Help!!!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/5/2009 8:37:18 AM
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I'm not sure that I really want to "control" my 14 yr. old daughter. It's just that she has always been so easy to get along with and if we had a disagreement, we would talk about it. All of a sudden, I'm good for nothing and don't ever know what I'm talking about. Until she wants or needs something. I feel like throwing her $200.00 cell phone in the garbage and erasing all of her Myspace and locking her in her bedroom until she's 30. That's it! If she can change so quickly without any notice, so can I! I feel so much better now. Thanks for all of your comments. 2 hrs. ago I dropped my "angel" off at school and after a heated discussion, she casually stepped out of the car and I think she "flipped me off". Or, maybe she did one of those "talk to the hand" gestures and her middle finger accidently stuck up higher than the rest them. I just kinda sat there for a second and had some flashbacks of her in our glory days when, she would hug and kiss me and not let go. I miss my little girl!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/5/2009 10:34:10 AM
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I'm not sure that I really want to "control" my 14 yr. old daughter. It's just that she has always been so easy to get along with and if we had a disagreement, we would talk about it. All of a sudden, I'm good for nothing and don't ever know what I'm talking about. Until she wants or needs something. I feel like throwing her $200.00 cell phone in the garbage and erasing all of her Myspace and locking her in her bedroom until she's 30. That's it! If she can change so quickly without any notice, so can I! I feel so much better now. Thanks for all of your comments. 2 hrs. ago I dropped my "angel" off at school and after a heated discussion, she casually stepped out of the car and I think she "flipped me off". Or, maybe she did one of those "talk to the hand" gestures and her middle finger accidently stuck up higher than the rest them. I just kinda sat there for a second and had some flashbacks of her in our glory days when, she would hug and kiss me and not let go. I miss my little girl!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/8/2009 8:36:39 PM
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don't worry about your teenagers. it will pass. they don't know that their minds are teething.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/9/2009 11:03:28 AM
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LMAO! I love that Rachel!!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/10/2009 7:02:05 PM
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don't worry about your teenagers. it will pass. they don't know that their minds are teething.
rachel
LOL, good one rachel! I'm writing that down and claiming it as my own witticism at a later date.  
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/19/2009 10:58:29 AM
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just read comments some made me laugh some worried me even more, i am the proud mummy of a clever 13year with big attitude recently, came on here because just taken away her laptop for using foul language on it again thought i might get a little strengh from somewhere before the next battl commences, she was adorable and it has always been me and her even when her dad was around who isn't anymore, i know i've got to be tough and stay in control just seems really hard at times wish i'd learnt to surf then i could just ride the waves. thanks
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/19/2009 1:34:58 PM
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I need help. I am a single mom of twin 17 year old daughters. They have started running around with a couple of new friends that have them convinced that they are now adults and don't have to pay attention to rules or curfew, and have given them the idea that I have no business telling them anything. It has gotten so bad that one of my daughters has started telling me how much she hates me, that she doesn't respect me and that I am stupid. I have NEVER told either of my girls that they were anything other than wonderful. I am not a pushover, but I am not a strict disciplinarian either. I have tried to allow them to grow and make choices based on the morals I have taught them but I cannot take much more of this. It is to the point where I am wanting them to move out, no matter where they go. Neither one has a job. I have tried for almost two years (they will be 18 in July) to get them to get a job. They keep telling me that it is THEIR weekend, or THEIR spring break or THEIR summer...... I am soooo tired of hearing this. I work long hard hours to give them what they need. I get accused of never being home. I try to teach them basic house work, I get accused of favoring one over the other by giving the "crap" jobs to one even though I rotate them weekly. If anything gets done it is half way at best. The fights are completely unreal, I would NEVER have spoken to my parents like this. Now, they ignore me in my own home, and just walk out the door without a goodbye or this is where I am going. Is this behavior normal?
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 6/19/2009 1:47:52 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that. I, like you, can't imagine speakign to my parents this way. Unfortunately, other than talking to them like adults, or perhaps counseling, I'm not sure what would work.
I hear this more and more and it seems to be becoming an epidemic. I would say if they want to be treated like adults than go fot it. Food cost this much, rent is this much, etc etc. If that's what they want give them the whole shabang.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 7/9/2009 6:02:16 PM
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Ok... ok so I went all Alec Baldwin on her because she never responded to the calm, gentle approach....and I am paying the price for it....I now have a 15 year old daughter who, like y'all, used to be so wonderful. Now, eh...not so much....now the coolest Dad in the world (that's me according to my 10 year old son) is horrible and she would prefer now to live with the EX, A Courtney Love Type of-a-mother that has never been part of her life until now. I beat myself up for a while wondering what I did wrong and what I could change to bring her back to me but realize its not all me. Sure I need a little fine-tuning but after a lot of research I am seeing that this is part of life....We should laugh, take it in with a smile....and occasionally beat the living $%@! outta them....just kidding...about the laughing and smiling part that is....:) I STILL LOVE MY ANGEL
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 7/11/2009 2:23:24 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that. I, like you, can't imagine speakign to my parents this way. Unfortunately, other than talking to them like adults, or perhaps counseling, I'm not sure what would work.
I hear this more and more and it seems to be becoming an epidemic. I would say if they want to be treated like adults than go fot it. Food cost this much, rent is this much, etc etc. If that's what they want give them the whole shabang.
I've got to agree with Christine on that. Teens now seem to want all the privileges but none of the responsibility that goes along with that (ie earning the money that pays for the privileges in the first place and contributing towards the home). I got my first part time job at 15 and had to hand in a small share of my earnings. Not that I earned much! It was more to teach me that as a family we were all expected to contribute something when we earned.
Being outside the home awhile would give them a sharp shock, no doubt about that. Only you know best what to do because you know your own kids best. My fear would be they'd go even more off the rails if allowed to roam freely. Do you have a family member or friend that could talk to them perhaps (and give them hell!) that they'd listen to? Sometimes it takes someone else pointing out how badly their behavior's affecting you to shake them up.
Good luck momofteentwins. Please do join in the forum more! It makes it easier when folks start a new thread to talk more.
I wish more responders to the article posts would join too. Their posts are much easier to see when they're in the other folders like the Raising Children one and don't get missed under all the other article comments.
We're friendly,people, honest. :)
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 7/18/2009 3:08:37 PM
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I am the mother of a 15 1/2 year old, have been divorced from her dad since she was 2 so it was just her and I for a long time, we did every thing together. she has a good life she has never had to want for anything, I have kept a good relationship with her dad. I found out by accident that she was having Sex, well now she hates me, and the step mom whom has had nothing to do with her for 12 years, is her best friend, between the two of them they like to talk bad about me, well yesterday the step mom came and picked up my daughter while I was at work, and promised to get her to see her boyfriend,his parents have not allowed them to be together since we found out about the sex .. Well the thing is that my daughter and I had a camping trip planned and a concert that I had tickets for, when i got home from work ready to go. I can't find my daughter,. I call her and she is at her dads she don't want to go with me now.. she wants to see the boyfriend because this will be her only chance to see him the whole summer and the step mom promised to get her to see him, of course it had to be at the same time we were leaving for our trip. Not sure who is the worse teenager my daughter or the games of the step mom.The dad has never had a back bone and just don't do much about anything. well it all back fired and she didn't get to see the boyfriend, and she didn't get to go to the concert. Then next day she calls me, and she wants a new cell phone, shows no concern that she messed up our weekend. I am at my wits end with her and ready to let the dad and step mom take her for the rest of the summer. the grass is always greener until you live there. She says she wants a family, her dad has kids, I cannot have kids. I think her being an only child with everything she has ever wanted to a house of 3 boys and no money, will be a good experiecne for her..but I to am beating myself up asking what I did wrong.. I feel like a failure. If anyone has any advice for me.. my email is sassy@speednetllc.com
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