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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 8/25/2011 6:06:21 AM
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The article really is humorous. Funny though but situations like that do happen most of the time to parents who have teens. I'm sure most parents would wish it's just that easy to just put a duct tape on their defiant teen's mouth, lol - but honestly, things just don't work that way. I guess it's most helpful to know that you're not alone in this type of situation and you get to learn from other parents in the process.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 8/25/2011 8:54:17 PM
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I have an 18 year old daughter who, for the most part, is a good kid. She's talented, smart, got a big heart. But she's driving me NUTS... There are times I wish to God that LJ, Zanga, MySpace, etc had never been invented and all that existed were the old style diaries. However, I don't live in the 20th Century and neither does she. At 14, she was posting, worldwide, how much she hated me, calling me every dispicable name, including a few names for a prostitute (which I'm most certainly NOT, btw). Her father confronted her about it after we found it. Tears abounded (she wraps him around her little finger and he is SO blind to it) and she switched to another online site, which we found. Our biggest problem is her school work. She's intelligent and every teacher has told us that it's not that she's not capable of the work, it's that she won't DO IT and turn it in on time to get the grades she should have. Unfortunately, because of the NCLB policy and our school district's policy of 'no failure', she and a lot of other kids have gotten the idea that deadlines on assignments are not absolutes, but suggestions. We try to stress, in EVERY way possible, that this is not so, but we're left banging our heads against the wall because we're defeated by the policies.I have decreed that I refuse to release any of her college fund as long as this goes on. I will NOT, under any circumstances, fund mediocrity. She'll go to college on her own accord and have to pay out of her own pocket. When she comes up against a professor who doesn't give a rat's behind about her, only that projects are ON TIME and the way they want it, not the way she wants it, she'll have to accept full responsiblity for her actions.I can only hope and pray that she eventually has a child just like she was. Then once she walks in MY shoes, she'll understand that maybe old Mom wasn't as stupid and dumb and clueless as she thought.And all the time, I'll just smile and say, I love you.<br><br>JLD
Amen!  Let's all hope our teens would realize all the hardships that we go through once they'll have their own kids in the future. By then, they can really say "Now, I understand" 
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 9/1/2011 6:37:23 PM
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I have a 13 year old daughter that is everything you just discribed in this. She is so hard to handle.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 9/27/2011 1:46:53 PM
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I feel like I wrote this in my sleep! I'm going thru a very similar situation with my 15 yro daughter. I too put my mom thru rough times. I guess I'm getting it back in turn. We are all in therapy and hoping that this will too help. Her step-father and I are trying our best to get thru this with her, but I feel that she will end up choosing her bio-father to live with since he is the 'good-time' dad and not a parent dad once she turns 16. We are the responsible parents and I feel that we are getting punished by her behavior as well as his. She has never known anything differently as her bio-dad and I were never married and I left him when I was 5 mo pregnate because of his abuse. I hope and pray that I emotionally make it thru this. There is just so much going on. I just want to be there for her and have things the way they were, but I know that they will not go back and can only hope they get better for my family.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 9/29/2011 12:15:14 PM
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My 14 year old daughter and I was best of friends last summer. although she kept on reminding me that she and I cannot be friends and I have to get my own friends. She was actually reminding me that this is not permanent.I prepared my self, I thought. One day, she attended her volleyball practice and when she came home after the practice she told me that I cannot tuck her in to bed anymore. My world did not collapsed yet, she have a habbit of making me think and come back to me later and start tickling me.But on that night she shutt her bedroom door and went to bed. That was the time that the world really came down on me HARD. She doesn't talk to me anymore, she gets very angry when I start a conversation with her. I don't know what to do..I miss her so much.It was just 4 weeks ago when we were dancing together. We even created a lullabye song that we sing together when I tuck her in to bed. I miss our guineapig conversation., we don't do that anymore. I want to hugh her but she wouldn't let me. It seemes like I don't exist anymore. my husband told me to relax and she will get over with her "****scense". Right now, all I can do is to pray for her safety..she is my world.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 10/17/2011 10:43:30 PM
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Julie, hang in there... I have been, am still in your exact position... Everyone told me the same thing, it will get better... I am telling you it does, don't compromise. Your daughter will come to understand all your sacrifices and your love for her.I am sending you love!
Samantha
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 10/18/2011 6:24:51 PM
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I a 14yr old girl and you just made us sound like moody little monster....i mean yeah we can be but not all of us are horrendous. One thing ive learned is i always expect my mom to know when im irritated, now does she NO but do i think about this when im mad, agian NO. And as far as the t shirt thing if you spoil a kid when their young they are going to hink your the one who is going to get them something all the time ....the other part is we are teenagers and we want what we want and we want it then and now>:) are we evil...yes at times but we do love you guys and will eventually grow out of this stage. From someone who knows
Sarah
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 10/18/2011 11:38:51 PM
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...are we evil...yes at times but we do love you guys and will eventually grow out of this stage.
Sarah, you just gave a lot of parents both hope and reassurance. Thank you.  We're human too, you know.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 10/23/2011 2:25:21 AM
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I hate it when people generalize and stereotype teenagers, honestly! I'm fourteen, and my bedroom is always neat and clean, I try and do my best in school, I don't believe in 'boyfriend/girlfriend relationships' at this age because I know they won't be real. And I help around the house. And guess what? Most of my friends and people in my year are very similar to me. Not all teenagers are moody, spoilt, horny, kids who hate their parents. My mum is the one who started treating me like a teenager, she stopped tucking me into bed, and get's angry when I ask her for help with homework. Honestly, if your daughter is really what you make her out to be then she is one of the idiots that puts a bad reputation on teenagers. And if you're buying her fifty dollar designer t-shirts that she just "had to have" then who's fault is for the way she is? YOU.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 10/23/2011 12:16:43 PM
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I hate it when people generalize and stereotype teenagers, honestly! I'm fourteen, and my bedroom is always neat and clean, I try and do my best in school, I don't believe in 'boyfriend/girlfriend relationships' at this age because I know they won't be real. And I help around the house. And guess what? Most of my friends and people in my year are very similar to me. Not all teenagers are moody, spoilt, horny, kids who hate their parents. My mum is the one who started treating me like a teenager, she stopped tucking me into bed, and get's angry when I ask her for help with homework. Honestly, if your daughter is really what you make her out to be then she is one of the idiots that puts a bad reputation on teenagers. And if you're buying her fifty dollar designer t-shirts that she just "had to have" then who's fault is for the way she is? YOU.<br><br>Teenager that doesn't fit into stereotype
I sincerely hope you're right that that's the majority and not the minority. I think your mom's just trying to help you grow up a little by not tucking you in anymore, though homework help is something we could all use at any age in school. Did you know there are several places that offer free and live homework help? It's often offered by local libraries that have trained tutors online. Just Google it and see if there's any in your area. Thanks for commenting and welcome to the community. :)
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 10/24/2011 3:13:27 PM
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Good for you! ...and welcome aboard! I was alot like you, although I could have gotten help with homework (I think, lol) but I opted for tutors. I found them easier to deal with....no offense to the folks but a non emotional, neutral tutor is a ok!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 11/1/2011 5:18:50 AM
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I've got a 12 year old going on teenager.....Good Lord - I though I was alone in this!!!!Somedays I think I will NEVER EVERRRRR make it through this!!!!! HOW was my mother right?!?!?!And the way they look @ you when you try and reason with them?!?!?!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 11/4/2011 12:58:41 AM
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Hi I have a 16year old daughter i just don't know why she has attitude with me or her step dad.when we talk to her or joke with her she gets so angry.I am actually so stressed out.plz give me some advice I would be grateful thank you
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 12/3/2011 5:32:12 PM
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i have two .well two roomates .there seems to be a pattern here .ok anyone have thier friends ever say you were dead and you were actually the evil step mom from hell ?we have .anyone ever try n reasion with a tornado ohh come on over we';ll make you coffee and give you a lifesaver .our eldest offspring doesnt think school matters doesnt think ..?i dont even know this ?ohh rules .matter either she wount tell us who shes with where she is what shes doing .we give her nothing no monie no nothing no cell phones to text and shes so crazy .like that song the goodship lollypop with ozzies crazy train to get there on .we did put her in a program her first nite she got in a fight etc etc etc .we had parenting classes that made me laugh feel better aboult this .afterall its her life anyway .she reminds us everyday .like yesterday nite we were watching a show and she says "MOM "is that how you get when i dont come home for three days ?and added "ohh take it up the A#$and get over it already ..WOW ....i often fantasise ??what our lifes woulda been like had we stayed in the small town she was born in . i can only hope that one day we can all look back and smile but for now were looking for her friends numbers to see where the hell she is so she can come home and cuss us out and treat us like we should treat her .i asked her once where she got the attitude from she said it was mine haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa !
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 12/30/2011 11:15:41 AM
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hey, im 13 and u need to remember that going thru bein a teen isnt fun for us either! so nextt time ur about 2 shout our ground ur teen son/daughter, think first!!
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 1/1/2012 12:26:12 AM
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hey, im 13 and u need to remember that going thru bein a teen isnt fun for us either! so nextt time ur about 2 shout our ground ur teen son/daughter, think first!!<br><br>stella
Oh we remember being teens just fine, stella. All we parents were one once. And I can assure you my father would never have tolerated "hey I'm 13 and u need to remember..." passing my lips! Your tone is very inflammatory. No surprise there you're having a tough time with yours if that's how you address adults. Show them respect and it will be reciprocated.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 1/14/2012 3:36:34 PM
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Again, I am 13 and this is a very stereotypical view. I have respect for my parents, I keep my room clean, I help around the house, I don't talk back. The only thing that bugs me is that my parents don't have respect for me. Teenage girls at at the age where they aren't little kids anymore that you can put on the naughty step, yet are often still treated like them. We are treated like kids and expected to behave like adults. Teenage years are hard. Really hard. There is stuff going on that you can't explain and peer pressure and schoolwork and body traumas - let's not even get started on self-esteem. So lay off your daughters a little bit because they are just trying to establish themselves as adults in a world that still sees them as kids.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 1/27/2012 3:14:36 PM
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What do you do when you are divorced and your teenage daughter runs off to her dads,who allows her to do this and she wraps him around her little finger,i keep telling her i love her and adore her via text and facebook because she refuses to speak to me directly,please help because i am devastated
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 2/1/2012 7:41:06 PM
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This type of thing has been going on for the length of human history. Even Socrates chastised the youngsters of his era for many of the same complaints people have about them now (except, of course for new "evils" such as facebook). I think that hormones and the like are largely accountable for much of teenage behavior, but that each person (adolescents included!) is responsible for their own actions and/or words. That said, I know absolutely nothing about parenting (given that I'm 13) and good luck to you all.
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RE: The Joys of Raising a Teenage Daughter - 2/16/2012 1:28:49 PM
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Lock them in their room till 35? My idea was to have my doughter dig a hole in the back yard. Why? Thats where i wanted her to be so i could find her....
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